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Getting rid of the feeling of irritation

Feeling irritated. The main causes of irritation, what interferes and how to get rid of irritation.

Greetings dear readers!

The feeling of irritation is still the same emotion and, like any emotion, it arises in response to some circumstances that provoke us. And how we evaluate these circumstances for ourselves, that is, how we relate to them and what emotions they cause, be it anger, irritation, fear, sadness, resentment, guilt, etc., depends on our perception. And each person has a different perception of certain things and situations.

For example, the same situation can make someone angry, sad or irritated, a second will cause fear, and a third will not have any emotions at all or will even make them happy and amused.

Someone may be annoyed by someone's stupidity, someone's rudeness or boasting, someone's sloppiness, someone's excessive slowness, rudeness, or even loud laughter and joy.

That is, the feeling of irritation is individual for everyone and it all depends on how we ourselves relate to and perceive certain situations, facts and the people themselves.

Let's consider some of the main, deep reasons for our irritation.

Why does it happen that we get irritated precisely by these, and not by some other facts and circumstances, and why are they the same for different people do the phenomena cause them to react differently?

A rude and unpleasant person is not irritated by his own rudeness. And no one is annoyed by their own slowness, indecisiveness or boringness, although sometimes we can do this.

I already said at the beginning that everything depends on perception, the essence of which is “non-acceptance” or “acceptance”.

For example, we may be irritated by what we cannot accept in other people. What goes against our principles and beliefs. This is how we are and believe that we are definitely right, we think and act correctly, which means others should listen to us and do as we advise them, if they themselves act somehow wrong.

And many simply cannot come to terms with what is manifested in the behavior and actions of other people.

Here I would like to immediately say that it is still unknown how right and who is right here, life is a tricky thing, but the truth is relative!

And if something pisses you off, it means that something owns you, you are not able to treat it calmly, and this means that you are no longer free! But nature and our entire world are multifaceted and perfect, and perfection lies in diversity, both in the bad, in our opinion, and in the good.

Therefore, you need to accept, let go and give everyone the right to believe or not believe in what they want. Everyone creates their own world and everyone copes with their problems in their own way, some run away from them in their own way, and some live without avoiding difficulties and responsibilities. And that's their right!

The main indicator in the end will be who mentally feels more harmonious and happier, who knows how to live and enjoy life for nothing.

Those who run away from difficulties can hardly be called happy, because killing moments of your life in meaningless actions, alcohol and drugs means running away from yourself and from your capabilities. Such people lose the value of life, they live all the time in anticipation of oblivion or something that can distract themselves from thoughts, just so as not to think and feel painfully; they have not learned to live in harmony with themselves. But again, it's their choice!

And if you're so disappointed close person, you tried for a long time and couldn’t do anything with him, leave him alone, let him live as he wants, and start new life with a person who is suitable for you in terms of views and life principles. It is clear that the unknown of change will be scary, but it is better to start from scratch than to live with disappointment without even trying.

And be that as it may, with your irritation you will still achieve little from people and prove nothing to them. Irritation causes only reactive, active or hidden, aggression in a person and nothing more. He will still remain his own!

So why get irritated, fray your nerves, spoil YOURSELF’s mood and health, and waste precious time on something that we cannot influence?

I would immediately answer myself like this: “Well, why the hell am I going to sweat and torture myself if I’m still not able to change anything here.”

But this is only one of the main reasons, we are also often annoyed by the fact that finds some response within ourselves. And usually this is due to what we really want to get rid of and what we don’t like about ourselves .

What could it be? We have conscious principles, beliefs, deepest desires and life experiences, but we forget that each of us also has innate qualities, both good, from the point of view of our morality, and “bad” ones that represent our dark or weak side . By bad we can imagine, for example, anger, cruelty, greed, cowardice, depravity, selfishness, arrogance, lies, hypocrisy, etc.

And if we notice something in ourselves that goes against our conscious beliefs, we immediately try to get rid of it, brush it off or justify ourselves, in short, we begin to struggle and engage in self-improvement, which in general is good, if we take our time, carefully and That’s right, we all want and strive to become better.

But there are things that we cannot cope with, these are our subconscious, animal instincts and innate qualities given to us by nature.

You cannot completely tear out of yourself what we originally are. And trying to get rid of something like that, we are fighting with a part of ourselves!

This, by the way, is the main cause of various human mental disorders, when there is an internal conflict (struggle) between conscious principles and attitudes, with subconscious instincts and innate qualities that a person refuses to accept. And this is also one of the factors and indicators of our irritation.

What irritates us in other people is precisely what we have in ourselves and what we sincerely hate.

That is, if we, for example, by nature aggressive or greedy, but according to some moral principles we want to be kind, good and with an open, generous soul, then we will often be irritated by those qualities in a person that we suppress in ourselves, but notice them in others.

This is what we hid and are hiding from everyone, including ourselves, which involuntarily reminds us of our own “inner sins” that we cannot accept in ourselves.

And it’s very important to be here be honest with yourself to become able to understand yourself and understand what is happening inside. And then accept reality, whatever it may be, and calm down, thereby saving yourself from constant struggle and.

Then the irritation arising for this reason would first diminish, and then completely go away on its own.

Therefore, it is better to immediately tell yourself: “ Yes, I'm not as good as I thought. Yes, I’m so bad, but I also have strong, good sides. But now I am honest with myself, I sincerely accept all the good and bad in myself. And I don’t owe anyone anything, just the way I am.”.

And then, if you have such a desire, you can engage in your own development and correct some weaknesses in yourself, that is, become not ideal, who we imagine ourselves to be inside, but simply gradually become better and better, stronger, calmer, independent, etc., but this does not mean get rid of it completely from a part of yourself, whatever that part may be.

In general, take a closer look at yourself and pay attention to this.

Now let’s move on specifically to the details of how to get rid of your irritability.

Here it must be said that the feeling of irritation is a natural, natural reaction, just like anger or sadness.

If some Alibabaevich, this bad person, drops a battery on your leg, then you are unlikely to experience a feeling of joy. And if you are a well-mannered person, with good manners and “correct”, respectable principles, then it is stupid to deny that this will not cause you any obscene, negative emotions.

Feelings of anger and irritation will be justified here, to say the least. That is, it is clear that you will be angry and irritated, and maybe some “bad” desire will appear.

With this example, I wanted to show that all our feelings have natural roots, and therefore have the right to be!

And if someone did something bad to us, it will be evil for us and we have the right to express it at least with our emotions, for example, the same irritation.

Moreover, if we often or always restrain and suppress our irritation or other natural, albeit negative ones, then we will of course show our integrity and willpower, but this will only be our external reaction, we will simply put on a mask of restraint, and the energy of this negative emotion will not disappear, but will intensify and be directed inward, which will lead to even greater psycho-emotional discomfort.

And over time, this can lead to a depressed state, decreased energy, some kind of mental disorder and even physical illness.

As a result, it turns out that you need not to restrain yourself and not be afraid to express your emotions if they arise for a well-founded reason. All this is true, but only on one side.

The fact is that if we often show our irritability for any reason and throw it out, then the irritability will only progress. We will gradually become nervous, no longer completely in control of our emotions; secondly, it is unlikely that things will work out for us a good relationship with people, relationships in the family and at work. This behavior can easily lead to failure and loneliness.

What to do then? It is impossible to restrain negative, natural emotions, and expressing them will also be of little good.

When you begin to feel the first signs of irritation, and this is easy to notice if you listen and observe yourself, then immediately try to “slow down time”, look at everything, at any little things that surround you, and at people with deep, slow attention ; do not make sudden movements so as not to break wood; Do not make rash, emotional decisions at this moment. As a rule, they are the ones that lead to wrong actions and often irreversible consequences, which we later regret. And do not take out your irritation and negative thoughts on others. After all, first of all, you yourself need this.

To remain calm, not get irritated and be able to stop your emotions without suppressing yourself and not harming your health, your psyche, it is important conscious reinforcement to your action, that is, to do it fully aware of why and for whom you are doing it, to be aware of the reason.

And for this you need to clearly and clearly () for yourself why it is so important for me to keep my irritability within limits.

Then we not only consciously, but more importantly, subconsciously accept this restraint as a necessary and important reaction for us.

And now, when we restrain our negative emotion IN BEHAVIOR, such a strong internal conflict and suppression, it will not just be an action based on willpower and patience alone, but will become a conscious and healthy act, at which, positive the stimulus will help neutralize the flared energy.

You will need to find time so that no one disturbs you and calmly explain to yourself why what and how.

To do this, answer yourself two main questions: “Why shouldn’t I be irritated?” and “Who needs this most of all?” This will be your first step that will push you and your inner perception towards change.

We answer the questions - “Why is it better for us not to get irritated?”. Some answers:

- I can’t get irritated because this will not solve, but will only aggravate the situation;

- I won’t prove anything to anyone with my irritation, because they simply won’t hear me;

- irritation spoils my mood, physical well-being and often leads to stupid actions;

- with this behavior I worsen relationships with loved ones;

— often getting irritated can ruin my career (relationships with superiors);

- an irritated, unrestrained person is unpleasant to communicate with;

- problems cannot be solved through irritation;

- by showing irritation, I can lose a loved one;

- when irritated, unpleasant symptoms always arise in the body in the form of sensations (heartbeat, blood pressure, internal tension increase, stress hormones are released - cortisol, etc., and a headache often begins). And over time it can lead to the formation.

And let’s immediately answer the second question: “Who needs this?” The answer here should be clear as day, of course, you need it first of all, and also our loved ones and relatives, since they also suffer because of our irritability and nervousness.

When analyzing and answering these questions, you can remember your personal situations in life, look and answer for yourself whether your incontinence helped or harmed you.

When you understand all this for yourself, you will automatically, subconsciously begin to relate to irritating factors somewhat calmer.

How to get rid of irritation - practical steps and recommendations.

In addition to perception, our irritation, like other emotions, if we we experience this feeling repeatedly and often becomes our habit. That is, we begin to react more and more often to situations that do not suit us in some way and, out of habit, we immediately become irritated.

In many cases, we become habitually irritated by certain factors and certain people.

And if we have developed some kind of habitual reaction to a situation or some person, then whether we like it or not, this reaction will be flash automatically whenever a certain stimulus arises.

So we're just getting used to it react unconsciously in this way.

A dynamic stereotype is a built-in habit that is a very serious reason that prevents us from coping with our negative emotions.

Where are all our beliefs, attitudes, principles, bad and good habits based?

They are born in consciousness, but are deposited much deeper, in our subcortex of the brain (). That is why we cannot consciously and easily give up something like this, although mentally we could have long ago changed our minds more than once, changed our minds, but at first this is of little use.

And this will continue until we change something within ourselves, change some of our habits at a level deeper than our consciousness.

To do this, we need not only to clearly understand why we are getting rid of some negative emotions, but also to change the habitual reaction itself, get irritated. Replace it with a new, more effective one, which in turn will gradually develop and become our already useful habit.

The second step in getting rid of irritation.

As soon as you notice the first signs of irritation, we begin consciously observe behind this feeling as inner feeling . In general, it is advisable to do this whenever you experience any emotions, this way you do not fight them, do not suppress them, but only track and observe, study yourself and accept them as a normal reaction to some situation.

We direct our attention from the object of irritation to this emotion itself, which is now burning inside you. Observe how it affects you, how you feel, is there anything unpleasant in the body and where?

Just look at this feeling without suppressing the feeling; there is no point in resisting what already exists. After all, irritation is a natural emotion and there may be a good reason for its appearance. You can get rid of irritation only when you deeply realize that it is useless and that you are able to control it.

That's why we don't suppress, but we take it for granted. At this moment it will be good to say to yourself a short phrase: « I'm irritated now, I feel irritated inside". This makes it easier to accept this emotion and disidentify ourselves with it, but at the same time we try not to spill everything on others.

You will see that irritation, if you begin to observe and study it, gradually ceases to flare up. This happens because you, being in a state of conscious observer, notice that this feeling carries physical and heartache, and when you realize this, you no longer want to intensify this pain.

You need to experience all this in practice to understand how it happens, but once you realize and try, over time you will begin to get better at it.

Let's conclude:

— We focus our attention on the irritation itself, as on an internal sensation, and not on the object of irritation;

“We don’t fight, we don’t suppress this feeling, we just observe it, see how it affects our general condition.

The thing is that when we experience something strongly and identify ourselves with this experience, we identify - this means that at this moment there is a feeling as if the experience itself is “I”, we almost stop consciously thinking, the emotion has suppressed us and we no longer notice what is actually happening around us, the emotion is simply controls us.

Therefore, we need to consciously focus all our attention on the irritation that has arisen and study it from the inside.

When you notice that you are irritated with someone, you can at such moments put on your face a light, relaxed smile aimed not at the object of irritation, but inside yourself. You have to kind of feel it.

Such a smile helps you look at the situation and perceive it easier. Just don’t overdo it with this smile; if you hold it for a long time and feel tension, let it go.

And even with such thorough techniques, it will not be easy at first until your new reaction strengthens and becomes habitual. But by practicing regularly, everything will work out.

It is only important to return less often to the old habit of being uncontrollably irritated. Otherwise, today I did this, and tomorrow I went back to the same way again. If you couldn’t restrain yourself somewhere, it’s okay, come to terms with it and just skip this moment and continue to train yourself.

Another important point:

When you learn to cope with irritation and it ceases to be your weakness, after unpleasant situations there will still be a residual effect of this emotion and here it is best to do the following.

Let's go to the gym or even at home you can angrily hit a pillow or something like that. It would be great to just do sports exercises.

If any of you have gone to the gym, then you know that after working out well, you feel renewed, relaxed and calm; all the negativity that remained inside splashed out in physical activity. Reasonable (non-professional) sport is very useful and necessary, both from the physical and psychological sides.

This way, nothing will accumulate inside you, and when annoying situations arise, you will approach them much calmer.

In general, about the causes of irritation.

A person can be irritated for various reasons; on the one hand, it’s just a habit of being irritated at everything, but on the other hand, people and situations that cause irritation in us for good reasons. And here we need to take a closer look at what this feeling indicates to us, what exactly causes anger, resentment or feelings of disgust, guilt, etc. in us.

It often happens that irritation and dissatisfaction are a consequence of some unresolved problem, for example, if you are not at all satisfied with your work or are not satisfied with your personal relationships, or perhaps someone always causes you mental pain - insults you, constantly ignores your opinion, and in general doesn't listen to your wishes. You sincerely try for a person, try to please him, and in return you receive indifference or even aggression.

In this case, you need to take a closer look at this feeling, find the reason and see how best to solve this life situation.

Just as often, irritation is a sign of psycho-emotional fatigue and, and maybe.

The cause of constant irritation can be increased (constant) anxiety, chronic fatigue, dissatisfaction with oneself and life in general. In this case, you need to fight not with irritation, but gradually eliminate the cause of anxiety, fatigue and negative attitude towards yourself.

How to get rid of feelings of irritation - important points:

1). From my experience, I can say that it is best to catch any of your emotions, no matter whether they are positive or negative, in order to make it easier to cope with in the very beginning, when you just begin to feel their appearance.

And in order to do this most effectively, you need to gradually learn to observe your condition, this is what is called the beginning conscious life, when a person begins to manage his life himself, and does not give everything up to the will of internal elements in the form of emotions and thoughts.

Therefore, be sure to try, without tension, to gently trace your thoughts, emotions and feelings that arise. You will quickly begin to understand where, what comes from, and who is the boss in the “house” (within you), you or your thoughts and feelings.

2) When you have any negative emotions, try to do little by little opposite what they provoke you to do.
For example, if you are angry with a person, try to smile and tell him something pleasant, which he may not be expecting at all. By the way, this can sometimes give an amazing and wonderful result.

If it is not possible to do the opposite, then simply ignore the irritating factor and see yourself as described above.

Such opposite actions will be good exercises and as you practice them, you will learn to observe and control your emotions, this will help you quickly get rid of irritation.

3) When putting into practice everything that was discussed here, remember that you cannot force yourself, do everything without undue effort, and do not bring yourself to overwork. Any change takes time, and excessive zeal leads to...

4) Remember that by being annoyed, you will never prove anything to anyone. And even if someone agrees with your arguments, it is only because you frightened him with your aggression, but inside himself he will still remain with his opinion.

5) There may be some isolated, rare exceptions in life when you should express your negative emotions, as in the case of Alibabaevich or when some arrogant “goat” jumps in line. The emergence of irritation and even anger in this case is natural and justified. Therefore, if you have lost your temper somewhere, then so be it, don’t be angry with yourself, don’t blame yourself, sometimes you even need to be a little angry.

In general, more often just try to think about what is pleasant and not annoying, smile sincerely more often and focus on what is truly useful and necessary for you.

Finally:

— People are different, there are plenty of scumbags, those who deliberately go into conflict and those who are completely irresponsible. There is a lot of injustice in the world in general.

Think and answer yourself - is there any point in being indignant about those situations and those people that you cannot influence or change at least something?

It becomes pointless to get upset and torment yourself. By getting irritated, we often provoke feelings of guilt and increase the feeling of resentment, and this is also direct aggression against oneself. Your health and good mood are much, much more important. Just as it is and everything that is in it without trying to adjust external world for yourself (your views and beliefs). You won't change people if they don't want to.

Change your prejudiced attitude towards yourself, towards people and towards the world to a softer and calmer one, then there will be no reason for irritation, it will simply flare up in you less often.

- Also remember, when you get irritated, you lose control of the situation and give this control to someone else who is more cunning, insightful and able to use your irritation for their own purposes.

Become a conscious observer of the irritation, rather than the irritation itself. Make a deep, inner choice for yourself: do you even need to follow this oppressive, burning and restless feeling? What is more important for you - to experience all its negativity on yourself or do you need peace of mind, normal relationships with people and health?

Having realized for yourself what is best for you (the choice here is obvious), over time you will be able to internally almost abandon this emotion.

And in order to make it easier and calmer to experience unpleasant situations, always try to breathe correctly, breathing is one of the most important components of our well-being, I wrote about this. Good luck!

Best regards, Andrey Russkikh

Causes a strong painful reaction, up to. Irritation is not a pleasant state and quite harmful. Because of irritation, every little thing turns into a conflict, irritation interferes with the feelings of others, reduces the clarity of thinking, decisions and actions.

Irritation can be caused by a variety of reasons.

Irritation is directly provoked by actions or communication when something painful is constantly touched upon: sore spots in the soul, sore topics in communication. Irritation often arises as anger at oneself, when a person cannot come up with a solution to a situation or does not dare to do what is necessary.

For example, a girl is sitting in an office with a window behind her. Everyone felt stuffy, the window was opened. It’s October outside, the girl felt cold. The body is uncomfortable, the condition urgently needs to be changed. Three options are clearly visible - 1. Change location. 2. Throw on a jacket. 3.Close the window. The girl does not dare to do any of these three points. And then first irritation arises, then anger, and then the girl just “goes mad.” And she leaves work cold and angry. And then he comes to a psychologist and says, “What should I do, my co-workers are just pissing me off.” "Arose" psychological problem"And all that was needed was to make sure it didn’t blow.

However, irritation sometimes occurs for almost no reason: for example, when you are tired or just have a bad day. It’s interesting that irritation can be a symptom of colds and other diseases: there doesn’t seem to be a disease yet, but irritation already signals: it looks like you’re getting sick.

Irritability may not be a situational reaction, but a personality trait - irritability. Such irritation often occurs in people who constantly do not know how and are not accustomed to understanding people and putting themselves in their place. A common cause of irritation is general bad manners, when a person is not used to and does not know how to react to another person with restraint, with understanding, correctly, considers it normal to either remain silent or lose his temper. This can be treated simply by teaching good manners and improving general culture.

What to do if you are irritated?

Perhaps you simply do not understand your interlocutor well. It is always useful to put yourself in the shoes of another person, to understand his situation and whether he is right. If you can’t do it yourself, ask others smart people, they will help you. If communication with this person in itself annoys you, it is better to stop communicating and go for a walk in the fresh air. If you are irritated by everyone and everything, check if you are healthy. At the very least, it's good to get some sleep. It is often useful to practice deep and slow breathing: it clears the mind and calms you down. Perhaps something is causing you discomfort: it’s cold, you want to go to the toilet, you’re afraid of something... If you deal with these reasons and remove the irritating factor, the irritation will go away.

Developed and well-mannered person doesn't get annoyed. More precisely, we can indicate the levels of skill of a person who knows how to cope with his irritation:

1. I know how to hide my irritability.
2. I relieve my irritation within no more than 3 minutes as soon as it arises. Or, if people pointed out my irritation to me, then I admit my irritation and promptly correct it.
3. I am practically enlightened, sometimes I irritate others with my even goodwill...

Have good interlocutors!

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Nervousness is a state of intense excitability nervous system, leading to sudden and acute reactions to minor stimuli. Often this condition occurs along with irritability, anxiety, and restlessness. Nervousness manifests itself in various symptoms: headaches, insomnia, a tendency to depression, increased suspiciousness, lability of pulse and blood pressure, decreased performance. Depending on the cause, symptoms are combined to form symptom complexes.

Increased nervousness is perceived as imbalance, lack of restraint, therefore such people are often mistakenly perceived as ill-mannered, dissolute individuals. Therefore, it would be advisable to undergo an examination, determine the cause and begin treatment for irritability and nervousness.

Causes of nervousness

Nervousness always has a reason; a person doesn’t just become nervous if everything is fine. All reasons can be divided into physiological and psychological.

The most common physiological causes of nervousness are diseases of the endocrine system, digestive tract, lack of nutrients, minerals, vitamins, and hormonal imbalances.

Among psychological reasons nervousness: stressful situations, lack of sleep, fatigue, .

Sometimes ordinary situations that a person would not pay attention to in a calm situation also cause emotional outbursts, for example, the sound of a hammer, a scream, the weather, music.

Many people often admire people who know how to restrain their emotions and suppress nervous impulses, but they have no idea what it costs them, what the price of such endurance and willpower is. Suppressing emotions is extremely harmful to health. When a person does not give vent to his experiences, nervousness is formed, tension increases inside, “pressure” is formed and “steam” must come out somewhere, and in this case, it comes out in the form of painful symptoms.

In ancient times, such people were called “bilious people,” which is associated with diseases of the biliary tract that arose from increased nervousness. Irritability, which accumulates over a long period of time, breaks a person’s stable balance and leads to...

If you endure and endure everything within yourself all the time, then soon there comes a moment when restraint is lost and even the most innocent action can cause a nervous reaction. When a person is dissatisfied with himself, this only adds fuel to the fire, irritability becomes even greater. Then the neurotic state becomes stable, and it is very difficult to get rid of it.

The problem with such people is that they take on too much, consider it a weakness to express emotions and suppress irritability. Sometimes they simply don’t know how to correctly express emotions, how to deal with. And often they reach the point where they need treatment for irritability and nervousness. If this is not a very advanced case, then you just need to make a small correction of perception, change negative views to positive ones, change your attitude towards things that cause irritation.

Nervousness can be a consequence of a severe somatic illness, for example, in some forms of cancer.

Increased nervousness occurs in pathological conditions of the central nervous system of the human psyche. Pathologies are organic - post-traumatic encephalopathy and functional - vegetative-vascular dystonia.

Nervousness can be a consequence of mental illnesses such as depression, epilepsy,. This condition may be accompanied by addiction (alcoholism, smoking, and others). The nervous system is closely related to the endocrine system, representing a single neuroendocrine system.

Nervousness manifests itself as a result of hormonal disorders - thyrotoxicosis, male and female menopause, premenstrual syndrome.

Increased fatigue and depression, together with nervousness, make up a symptom complex called “minor signs of stomach cancer.” The manifestation of such symptoms is very important in diagnosing the early stages of the disease.

Headaches, nervousness, insomnia - this is familiar to many, especially women. According to statistics, they are irritable more often than men. It is necessary to understand what exactly causes nervousness in women. The most common reason is workload. When there are a lot of urgent matters around and there is no one with whom to share responsibilities, a woman has to take on everything, responsibility for the family, home, work.

If a woman had drawn up a routine for her day, written down all her duties minute by minute, she would have gone out long list various matters that require her attention. Every morning starts the same way - getting up early in order to have time to prepare breakfast for everyone and gather all family members, and have time to get ready, send the children to school, prepare lunch for my husband, and at the same time show up at work on time. And at work throughout the day, the pace also does not slow down; timely fulfillment of professional duties is required. Upon returning home, the momentum does not slow down, household chores continue: cooking dinner, washing dishes, preparing for tomorrow's work day, as a result of which there is no time left for personal matters, because you still need to have time to sleep. In this case, responsibilities should be distributed among all family members so that everyone has a chance to relax and not shift things to another, thus everyone will appreciate each other more, and the woman will feel much better, the number of reasons for irritability and nervousness will decrease .

Women's nervousness is most provoked by hormonal imbalances - premenstrual syndrome, menstruation, pregnancy, menopause. During these periods, a woman’s perception is heightened, she becomes too sensitive and any slight discomfort can cause a negative reaction. If nervousness and irritability appear in women, treatment should occur, the sooner the better, because they spend a lot of their energy and nerves on unnecessary things.

Nervousness can be caused by rejection of generally accepted norms of behavior. When a person’s principles diverge from these norms, if he does not agree to live and work as society dictates, if he does not want to meet their requirements, this naturally leads to irritability.

Symptoms of nervousness

Bad mood, headaches, nervousness, insomnia, general weakness, fatigue - this is an incomplete list of the symptoms that plague an irritated and unbalanced person. Unmotivated aggression, feelings of anxiety, tearfulness, etc. are also added to this list.

These symptoms are numerous and can often mean something other than nervousness. Such symptoms can be grouped into various syndromes. But we can identify the most characteristic signs of nervousness: neurosis-like states, neuroses and neurotic reactions.

Characteristic symptoms also include repetitive actions of the same type, such as swinging a leg, tapping fingers, nervously walking from one place to another. There may also be sudden active movements, a shrill and loud voice. By raising his voice, a person gets rid of emotional stress, gains peace of mind, he shouts out the tension that is crushing him from within. At this state sexual activity, libido decrease, desire for a partner, interest in favorite activities disappears.

Increased nervousness develops based on stable experiences severe stress, as well as physical and mental stress. As a result, they deteriorate social relations with society.

One of the most characteristic features nervousness, it manifests itself in the fact that too much anxiety and excitement of the nervous system do not allow a person to fall asleep for three or four hours. Therefore, almost all people in a state of nervousness do not observe a day-night routine; they can sleep soundly during the day and wake up several times at night. Since the symptoms of nervousness are varied, it would be wise to see a doctor to get an accurate diagnosis.

Treatment of nervousness

Therapy for nervousness caused by various diseases, should be carried out under the supervision of a specialist, since self-medication can cause even more harm. If nervousness is a symptom of some pathology, then it is necessary to treat, first of all, the cause, that is, to investigate the peculiarities of the course of the disease. Also applicable general principles in the treatment of symptoms and causes of nervousness, which can be used in complex therapy.

These principles involve the following actions: normalization and stabilization of the day and night regime, elimination of the most destabilizing factors that increase the excitability of the central nervous system. You should review your diet, avoid drinks containing caffeine, guarana and other stimulating ingredients (coffee, strong tea, cola), limit or eliminate alcohol from your diet. Fruits and fresh vegetables should predominate in the diet; food should be balanced and light, not heavy.

If you have a smoking habit, you also need to get rid of it. There is a myth that nicotine calms a person; it is just a short-term illusory effect. Smoking has a toxic effect on the brain, which further intensifies the nervous state.

You can reduce nervousness with moderate physical activity, preferably in the fresh air. If there is increased nervousness, a course of psychotherapy, reflexology, dance classes, or yoga is prescribed.

If a person suffers from insomnia, which very often happens in people with this condition, then he needs to direct efforts to eliminate it. Because than more people does not sleep, the more nervous he behaves during the day, when he wants to fall asleep, but cannot, because the nervous processes are irritated, and thus a vicious circle results and this cyclicality must be destroyed. To do this, you should follow several rules. You need to go to bed earlier than before midnight, because at this time rest is of greatest value to the nervous system. To do this, you need to move your usual bedtime 10-15 minutes back every day. An hour or two before the lights out, you need to exclude factors that irritate the psyche, for example, watching TV, talking in in social networks, games, eating and drinking. Evening walks, warm baths, aromatherapy, and relaxing yoga help promote better sleep.

When a person feels unwell, depressed, nervous and anxious, treatment should be with tranquilizers that eliminate anxiety. Such drugs have a beneficial effect on falling asleep, reduce anxiety, etc. All sedatives, if necessary, are prescribed by a doctor. Habitual tea and coffee should be replaced by brewing soothing herbal infusions (motherwort, mint, valerian, lemon balm).

Increased nervousness and irritability in women, treatment of this condition requires medications. The peculiarity of the treatment of female nervousness lies in the complexity of the female body, so women are prescribed a full examination and consultation with a number of specialists - a psychologist, therapist, neurologist, gynecologist, sex therapist, endocrinologist. If the case is very severe, the woman is hospitalized in a hospital.

Treatment of irritability and nervousness is often carried out by the person himself without the supervision of a specialist. The treatment methods that a person uses are often unique. Many people, in order to relax and get away from the external “irritable” world, drink alcohol in large quantities. Someone listens to the recommendations of friends who, not being doctors, advise using potent drugs (Valocordin, Phenazepam), which are addictive and others side effects if they are not suitable for a particular person.

Nervousness and anxiety treatment occurs under when a person has severe mood swings. These conditions may be primarily caused by emotional disorders. During the consultation, the psychotherapist conducts psychodiagnostics, understands what can cause nervousness in a person and why he has increased anxiety. Next, the specialist creates an individual consulting program, a course of psychotherapy, during which a person will be able to figure out what and why causes anxiety attacks in him, learn to better understand himself and change his attitude towards various events, and will be able to learn adequate types of response to various potentially irritating factors. He will also learn relaxation and meditation techniques, which he can then independently apply in situations of anxiety and irritability.

Doctor of the Medical and Psychological Center "PsychoMed"

The information provided in this article is for informational purposes only and is not intended to substitute for professional advice and qualified advice. medical care. If you have the slightest suspicion of nervousness, be sure to consult your doctor!

Focal lesions of the cerebral cortex can lead to partial seizures in a variant of Jacksonian epilepsy. Due to local irritation of the cortex, the onset of seizures is typical from a limited muscle group with preserved consciousness. The seizure may be limited to this, but it can generalize, turning into a general convulsive seizure with loss of consciousness. For topical diagnosis of the localization of cortical damage, the initial symptom of a seizure, indicating the location of local irritation of the cortex, is of leading importance. Common types of seizures are described below.

Rolandova region
– Irritation of the precentral gyrus leads to seizures, starting with convulsions in a separate muscle group, which can spread to the entire limb and wider - in accordance with the somatosensory projection of the body in the precentral gyrus.
– Irritation of the postcentral gyrus causes seizures of sensory Jacksonian epilepsy, which begin with paresthesia in the area corresponding to the lesion. Irritation may radiate through the postcentral gyrus, resulting in paresthesia spreading over half the body, and may also affect the precentral gyrus, resulting in seizures.

Frontal share
– Irritation of the posterior part of the middle frontal gyrus leads to the appearance of a seizure, starting with a convulsive turn of the head and eyes in the direction opposite to the lesion, followed by generalization of the seizure.
– Irritation of the area of ​​the frontal operculum (operculum frontale), which is located downward from the central sulcus, causes seizures that begin with rhythmic movements reminiscent of smacking, swallowing, slurping, chewing. Generalization of the seizure is possible.
– Irritation of the anterior adversive field (posterior part of the superior frontal gyrus) leads to a seizure, which begins with convulsions of the entire opposite muscles of the body. Consciousness is lost at the onset of the seizure.
– Non-convulsive epileptic seizures with damage to the frontal lobes are manifested by switching off consciousness for a very short period of time (units or fractions of seconds), accompanied, as a rule, by a temporary cessation of actions, speech, etc.
– Attacks of frontal automatism last longer (minutes and hours). During an attack, the patient can perform complex actions that seem appropriate to others. Quite often, during such attacks, socially dangerous actions (murder, arson) can be committed. It is necessary to take into account the loss of consciousness during the attack and amnesia of the actions performed.

Temporal share
– Irritation of the temporal lobe in the area of ​​the superior temporal gyrus leads to seizures that begin with an auditory aura. When the inner surface of the temporal lobe (uncus gyri parahippocampalis) is irritated, the aura can be olfactory. Foci of irritation in the area of ​​the insula lead to the appearance of a taste aura. A rarer vestibular aura occurs when the parieto-occipital-temporal junction is irritated. Visceral auras (cardiac, epigastric) are possible with irritation of the mediobasal areas.

– A feature of temporal lobe epilepsy seizures is the relatively rare development of a generalized convulsive seizure and the more frequent development of partial seizures in the form of short-term loss or blackout of consciousness without convulsions; the occurrence of dream-like states with a feeling of what has already been seen or when everything around seems unreal, unreal.

Parietal share. Irritation of the posterior adversive field (superior parietal lobule) causes a seizure, starting with paresthesia in the entire opposite half of the body. This is followed by either convulsions in the muscles of the opposite side of the body, or a secondary generalized convulsive seizure.

Occipital share. Irritation of the occipital lobe leads to seizures starting with a visual aura (photomes and more complex visual images), often followed by turning the head and eyes in the opposite direction and a general convulsive seizure.

Irritation is a very unpleasant feeling, well known to all of us. Some people annoy us, others we annoy. Let's talk about why this feeling happens to us and how to get rid of it.

But first, let’s figure out what “irritation” is, how it works and where it comes from. By answering these questions, we will not yet get rid of irritation, but a clear understanding of what is happening will allow us to reduce the intensity of emotions and not make trouble again.

Like any emotion, irritation does not arise out of nowhere. For such a sharp emotional experience to arise, it requires certain internal prerequisites. For example, the same action may irritate someone, but delight someone else. The action is the same, the reactions are different - this suggests that irritation is not a universal thing, but a very individual one.

Yes, sometimes different people are irritated by the same things, but this only speaks of the coincidence of their internal attitudes, and not of the fact that the irritant has universal significance.

In philosophy and psychology, the origin of the feeling of irritation has never been a secret - in fact, everything is very simple and quite obvious. But with one caveat - everything falls into place only if we recognize the presence in a person of what in psychology is called “unconscious”.

The problem is that not everyone knows about the presence of unconscious layers of the soul, or they know about it, but only on an abstract level - “Well, yes, someone has something there somewhere.”

After so many years of popularizing psychology, such ignorance about one's own structure is akin to not knowing that the earth is round. And yet, very often people stubbornly do not believe that there is something inside them that they do not know and have absolutely no control over. Thus, they equate their entire being with their conscious “I”, with all its troubles and contradictions, and meanwhile, our everyday “I” is only a slight echo of what is happening at a much deeper level.

Our “I” is a small island on the surface of the ocean covering the entire planet. It is this ocean of the unconscious that determines the course of our conscious life, no matter how much we would like to believe otherwise.

So, the roots of the feeling of irritation that we regularly experience lie in the area of ​​the unconscious. That is why irritation is so uncontrollable and so omnipotent.

By and large, the puny little “I” has no chance to resist the Ocean. Once irritation has already begun to set in, there is no hiding from it. It is useless to resist him - the storm will end only when it ends.

All that can be done in this state is to humble yourself and try not to make sudden movements - do not cut from the shoulder, do not take important decisions, do not take out your irritation on others. Moreover, those around you and even the irritant that caused this storm are not to blame for anything.

Irritation is our individual reaction to someone else's behavior, which, in itself, does not carry any allergens. This is our personal psychological allergy. Can anyone but ourselves be “to blame” for this?

Let's look further. Why is it that we are annoyed by one thing and not another? Some are annoyed by other people's sloppiness, some are driven crazy by other people's boasting, others worry all day because of the impudent person who jumped in line... Why is this so? After all, that slob doesn’t annoy himself. The braggart is genuinely delighted by his speeches. And the impudent guy is also more likely to be proud of himself than to be annoyed with himself.

The point is this: we get irritated by something that evokes some kind of response, some kind of consonance within us. In much the same way as two identical tuning forks begin to sound together if you ring one of them. In a positive context, this phenomenon is called “empathy” - spiritual consonance, mutual understanding on a deep level. And in the negative, “irritation” occurs.

When we see an impudent person jumping in line and get irritated, our spiritual tuning fork begins to sound, our “inner impudence”, the existence of which we may not have even suspected.

Very often people in this case deny - “It can’t be that it’s in me!” I’m not like him at all, he really infuriates me!” - Such indignation is sincere.

However, this is exactly the case - we become irritated with other people only when we see ourselves reflected in them. But the reflection is not of those traits that we would like to see, but of those that we have hidden from ourselves and buried deeply.

In childhood, when social pressure has not yet completely distorted the psyche, the child clearly sees and understands his desires. But, since he is constantly explained what it means to be “good” and punished for being “bad,” the child eventually learns to divide himself into “light” and “dark” sides.

He shows the light one to his parents so that he can be loved and praised, but he hides the dark one and lets it out for a walk secretly when no one is looking. But over time, as the pressure continues, the child begins to forget about the dark side - attention is paid to it less and less and it becomes completely lost, goes into the unconscious. Now the child himself believes that he is “good”, and all the “bad” is gone, gone forever.

The child knows nothing about “good” and “evil” and distinguishes one from the other only by the behavior of the parents.

For example, a child from birth is lively and active, and the mother is an introvert, calm, quiet, silent, loving solitude. The child constantly climbs up to her, demands attention, but runs into her dissatisfaction. And then he concludes: “Being active is bad, I’m bad.” That's all.

A completely innocent quality, so useful in adult life, is banned. The child begins to be ashamed of his activity, begins to hide it, tries to behave more quietly and feels guilty for displaying liveliness. Day after day, year after year. And then, being already an adult - lethargic, measured and sedate - he “for some reason” experiences a feeling of irritation with lively people... Is it already clear why?

What irritates us in other people is what we have condemned and anathematized within ourselves. When we get irritated by impudence, it is our own innate impudence, which, instead of being channeled in a positive direction, has been suppressed and excluded from life cycle, crawls out - angry and clumsy.

We see in it a reminder that long years learned to hide from everyone and from ourselves. And when someone involuntarily reminds us of him, we blame him - we get annoyed with him and consider HIM bad. It seems to us that he is a bastard, and we are good.

But he’s not a bastard, he’s just lucky that this quality wasn’t “amputated” to him as a child. Therefore, if we look deeper into ourselves even more carefully, it turns out that we even envy him - “He can do it, but I can’t!” - and this makes us even more irritated.

We are neither good nor bad. We are who we are. Some people know themselves better, others worse. Some people are very timid and very afraid of being bad. Some people are very persistent in proving their goodness to everyone. But, having once learned to divide everything into black and white, we carry this cross through life, tearing ourselves and the whole world apart.

Growing up, a person should learn and accept all sides of his soul, because only a child is forced to blindly agree with what is considered bad and what is good.

An adult should determine these boundaries for himself. But few people have the courage to look inside themselves - at the dark abandoned part of the soul, at those qualities that once had to be hidden away so as not to anger their parents.

The challenge of growing up is to get to know yourself, unleash your “Mr. Hyde” - and make friends with him, or at least find common ground for cooperation. Only then does a person become a holistic personality, harmoniously combining what was given by nature.