I have a mean personality. I always live with one foot in the future. But when I take a full step, I experience only disappointment.
I experienced disappointment in my beloved, but I thank him for letting me understand what life is.
It seems to me, or I will be forced to change my mind about this man, otherwise I will be disappointed in him ...
It happened to everyone: at first he swears in love, says that you are the one and only, and then it turns out that he just used you. And once again, disappointment awaits you.
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It is better not to look into the future, so that there is nothing to be disappointed in.
You can’t get used to disappointment in your loved one, so you shouldn’t even try.
The concept of "friendship" does not exist. Be it female, male or between these two sexes. There is only betrayal and disappointment.
To look at the true face of a person hidden under a mask, to find out what he is, you just need to bare your soul, trust and be frank, and disappointment will not keep you waiting ...
Fear pierces again and again ... My first love became a mistake ...
The prettiest girls are always the loneliest.
Don't waste your time on someone who doesn't love you...
I'll get over you, do you hear? I can run away from myself! You somehow breathe without me, and I will learn to breathe without you.
She wanted him to stay with her, but her lips were treacherously still...
I can't pretend to be strong anymore. When it’s so bad for me to clench my fists and bite my lips, just so as not to burst into tears in front of everyone ... I’m not a statue without feelings, but a living person ... OR: I remembered what the taste of tears is .... OR: you will miss when I I'm starting to forget...
There is only one way to avoid disappointment. This applies to both business and love. Never ask questions if you don't already know the answers.
It is better not to expect anything in advance, then there will be no disappointments.
And sometimes it seems that you can get used to disappointment. But that's not the case...
Disappointment is a small death!
From love to hate is one step ... from love to disappointment is even shorter ...
Disappointed .. Yes, so what? But tomorrow I will smile.
Men marry out of boredom, women marry out of curiosity. Both of them are disappointed.
If you miss a person, no matter how long you've known each other, then he has already become family to you.
Everything we call love, we later call shit.
Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he will not be disappointed...
Do not refuse immediately, let disappointment come in drop by drop.
The most serious disappointments turn into new happy meetings.
Hello disappointment. It's nice that you visit so often...
To all the disappointments, I lost another friend.(((- Statuses
Love deprives mind ... And disappointment returns!
The worst thing is to love a person who constantly disappoints you.
With each new disappointment, you lose faith in the existence of decent people!
Are you walking, my love? - Walk! No one is holding you by the horns!
Oh my God! How I love you. I gave everything so that we could be together ... But you don’t even notice me. 🙁
Believe in people, but only trust a few.
Frustration is a strange feeling. It doesn’t hurt, it’s not a pity, but it’s simply empty ...
How sad one day to realize that no one needs you. Such a wonderful day, And you are alone in the whole world.
I was disappointed in just one person ... and it feels like I lost the whole world!
How great is your trust, how great will be your disappointment...
Look for your destiny in yourself, and love in the faces of those around you.
Today I cried again ... I love you very much, very much! Come back to me, please ... I miss you so much ... damn, I am writing and crying again ...
Beloved! You settled in my heart and every day I say “hello” to you ... Although you are still gone and gone ...
Knock-knock is there anyone? Yes, pain and disappointment… Sorry, I thought it was the heart….
A lover is the second disappointment of a married woman.
I love meeting new people. It's the same hello "hello, new disappointment"
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Is happiness always replaced by disappointment over time?
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Disappointment is a negatively colored emotional state caused by the collapse of hopes or expectations after the manifestation of a real picture of the world. This feeling of disappointment in connection with unfulfilled dreams or that did not live up to expectations. The higher our expectations and hopes, the greater the disappointment. Disappointment is an experience of sadness, an experience that comes with understanding what could be instead of what is real. People try to do everything in their power not to feel this feeling, in every way they try not to recognize true disappointment. This concept is one of the configurations in which the subject stops fighting for the sake of gaining what he wants.
What is disappointment
Disappointment is an emotional state after a certain situation, which will serve as a reason for realizing reality.
Disappointment in a person's life forces him to accept the truth, not having won what he wanted. Many prefer disappointment. This negative emotion allows you to continue to live in a fictional world, not to feel a difficult state of sadness, not to admit that directly inflated expectations have not been fulfilled.
Disappointment for the subject is considered one of the most difficult emotional states. In this case, the individual experiences a combination of several: sadness, anger, pain, resentment. Individually, it is much easier to deal with any of these emotions than with their combination. As a result, a person tries to avoid this psychological state a hundred times more than any other negative feelings. With disappointment comes the realization of the “end”, the collapse of everything conceived, the person does not receive the cherished, does not experience the desired.
Disappointment in simple words is the experience of sadness due to unfulfilled hopes or dreams that we ourselves place on. It is necessary to emphasize that such definitions as "disappointment" and "charm" contain the identical root "charm". But only in fairy tales there are sorcerers who cast spells. In reality, it is the subject himself, who hopes to get something that does not exist, himself creates an image of what is expected (often excessively overestimated), due to the inadequate real world. When the image collapses, disappointment sets in.
Subjects who know exactly what they want become victims of disappointment more often. A person who planned everything in advance, fantasized the outcome of his own actions or actions of the people around him, the feelings that should arise, emotions and experiences, as if enchanted himself, closed his eyes with a veil of illusions. As soon as all this collapses, then no one will certainly come, a negative feeling that everyone runs away from.
Delving into the consequences of the disappointment that has come, one should pay attention to its positive features. After all, being disappointed, a person takes off his iridescent glasses, clearly sees the world as it really is, he ceases to be deceived. The experience of the ancestors says "to live, knowing the bitter truth better than sweet lies", and experience is not one century of life. But it is worth learning to perceive life in different colors, not only like “good - bad”.
The view of disappointment for each individual is subjective, everyone has the right to condemn only himself. Man is a creature prone to the ideal, he strives to achieve it everywhere: in relationships, at work, in himself. Directly in that situation, when expectations are too important, disappointment most often occurs. As a rule, disappointment in people, especially in loved ones, is most painful.
Disappointment in a loved one is a key factor in breaking up a relationship. At the initial stage of a relationship, falling in love fascinates people. Everything seems: bright, colorful, carefree, and this is where the problem begins to emerge. This is the starting point for the development of our fantasies, how everything will proceed in the future: people begin to endow each other with “super” qualities, determine how a person should behave, how he should speak, what feelings he should show, imagine an ideal life. A certain standard of a loved one is being created, this prevents us from perceiving this kind of situation, adequately, what is really happening. A man in love is not able to notice any shortcomings, flaws in behavior, negative qualities of character, in addition, he himself tries to show only his best sides, exposing only attractive character traits. Unconsciously, partners mislead each other, as if mutually inducing "enchantment". As soon as the period comes when people begin to live together, a period of relaxation begins (to live forever in tension in order to show all the best is very difficult and destructive for oneself) and a person reveals his true appearance. This is the line behind which lies disappointment in a loved one.
How to deal with disappointment in people
As soon as human behavior goes beyond the formed standard, the destruction of the one that we ourselves created for ourselves, in which we ourselves believed, occurs. The experience of disappointment affects the deterioration of the psychological state of the subject. It is believed that it is the negative behavior of loved ones that becomes the starting point for the formation of disappointment, but much can be forgiven. The emerging factor will be the need to change the opinion about this person, the destruction of hopes regarding him.
Disappointment is a factor that causes a storm of various negative emotions, the prolonged manifestation of which leads to a disruption in the normal rhythm of the subject's life. As a result, there is emotional instability, loss of self-confidence. Factors that generate emotional instability that contribute to the development of disappointment can be:
- spinelessness of the subject in the period of solving important life problems. A weak-willed person, afraid to face his own, is able to substitute in any non-standard situation, cause irreparable damage;
- betrayal - the most common factor that causes disappointment. As a result, a depressive state, accompanied by serious personal changes in the subject;
- lack of self-confidence. The life position of the subject is to consider himself unworthy, incapable of attracting the attention of a partner of the opposite sex. As a result, the emergence of dependence on the opinions of others.
The level of disappointment and its consequences is directly dependent on the scale of the betrayal itself.
How to deal with the already manifest disappointment in a person? It is worth trying to answer the question why this incident occurred, why the subject should have met your expectations. Analyzing the situation from a different direction, one should take into account the personal characteristics of the subject, his behavior is entirely justified for him, the person has no idea what you fantasized and what ideal qualities you attributed to him. Views of the world can be completely different from your own values and beliefs - it is possible not to notice in couples in love.
Episodic repetition of your partner's negative actions may let you understand that the essence of what happened lies much deeper, in the depths of your own experiences and emotional states. Alternatively, it is your behavior that contributes to the occurrence of such reactions. Do not blame everyone around, analyze your own actions and desires.
If disappointment caught you by surprise, you should never accumulate negative emotions in your own inner world. Each of them must be allowed to react, to reach the stage of completion. The accumulation of negative, emotional states can lead to inevitable psychological changes that you can no longer overcome on your own. To effectively cleanse the internal state of an excess of negative emotions, you can use several simple techniques: cleansing with water (taking a shower, perhaps speaking all negative feelings into the water), walking in the fresh air, physical exercises, developing creative ideas that you have been putting off; purchasing a pet.
Don't focus on what happened. Face the fact that what happened was inevitable and this is not the end of your existence, after that you can live, while having a precious psychological experience that allows you to avoid illusory influence in the future. Focus on your goals, do not plan for the result, but keep yourself busy working towards achieving the goals as much as possible.
Stop looking up to those around you. Strive for and, do not copy the behavior of others who, in your opinion, are successful or impeccable. Wean yourself from idealizing everything that appears in your path, direct your worldview in a different direction. Disappointment helped you remove the veil from yourself, so learn to see the world with all its shortcomings, negative manifestations. Become an example for others, be the person that nature created you with all the advantages and imperfections.
Throw away all existing patterns, everyone without exception is given the opportunity to react differently to surrounding stimuli, everyone has their own individual view of the world. Do not be afraid to enter into new love relationships - the disappointment received in the past will serve as an experience for you in the present.
Disappointment in a person's life is a natural emotional state, which should not be embarrassed, moreover, be afraid. It should be remembered that time is not subject to a person, it is already impossible to change the situation of disappointment. This is not a verdict. The ability to control one's feelings, dreams and hopes, to use them rationally in relation to the desired subject, will allow one to make fewer fatal mistakes, free one from excessive illusions.
Speaker of the Medical and Psychological Center "PsychoMed"
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If you know people, you will never be disappointed in them.
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The wind of hope can sometimes turn into a draft of despair.
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How few people are left, namely people, sincere real ...
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I don’t understand sometimes ... Some people have a hobby or life credo like this - DO NOT SPIT IN THE SOUL ??? Or just a habit already?
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Disappointment in everything and everything is a direct road to yourself, which soon ends in a dead end.
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Disappointment is a small death!
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If you are sure that everything will be fine, then be sure that bad is also good.
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If you dreamed of something very, very good, and you were not disappointed when you woke up - life was good!
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With each new disappointment, you lose faith in the existence of decent people!
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The more you idealize a person, the more you become disappointed in him later...
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With irony we cover up big and small disappointments...
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It takes forever to gain trust, one moment is enough for disappointment ...
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Disappointment in loved ones is more painful than being killed at the hands of the enemy!
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I'd rather be alone than on a thread smeared with false promises over an abyss... So at least calmer...)
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Hello disappointment. It's nice that you visit so often...
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The stronger the love is at the beginning, the bitterer the disappointment is when the relationship has exhausted itself.
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Even if at school you were a straight A student, in life you can turn out to be a square fool.
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The inevitability theorem is proved with the help of disappointment experiments.
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Don't wait to be waited for, manifest to be disappointed...
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Hope is most often a delayed disappointment.
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It’s a pity that you can’t live life again and keep those people who are important, and never meet those in whom we made a mistake ...
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The worst thing is to find out about a person whom you trusted infinitely, such that after that you just don’t want to live ...
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Disappointment is a temporary reassessment of values and conventions.
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Frustration is a strange feeling. It doesn't hurt, it doesn't hurt, it's just empty...
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You can do many things, but don't let me be disappointed in you... it's not easy to be disappointed!
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Disappointment is inevitable if you rely on someone other than yourself ...
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It's hard to offend me, it's easy to disappoint me!
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As great as your trust, so great will be your disappointment.
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Trust seeks to meet honesty...
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The most serious disappointments turn into new happy meetings.
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If you don't see me in your life, then I'll take off my glasses.
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I'm just tired of waiting like no one else!
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Disappointment is like a cold - they need to be ill. But then a strong immunity is formed.
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How do you have to be disappointed in people to call a chainsaw "Friendship"?
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Takeoff… Jump… Flight…
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There was a void inside and no one can fill it ... You are one of a hundred that I wanted to remember ...
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Her body wanted love, but was not at all ready for another disappointment...
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It's not that much of a revelation to find out that people are disappointing. But the world will collapse if I find out that you will change by betraying me.
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If I disappointed you, then you were not fascinated by me))
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It happens that you trust a person - as yourself, and then it turns out that he is not at all the one for whom he was taken ...
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I am disappointed in you. Thank you so much for this, you helped me to start living again.
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An example of simultaneous triumph and disappointment: a mosquito killed on a white dress.
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Hope is such a thing... It's expensive. We often pay for it with disappointment and pain. Therefore, we keep it away from the heart, just in case, so as not to get burned ...
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Unlucky! I fall in love, I am disappointed I fall in love, I am disappointed. Tired!
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Disappointment is inevitable when one of the two relies only on their own opinion, regardless of the opinion of the partner. This is how trust, understanding, love leave relationships ...
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No one can disappoint you, only your thoughts about others disappoint you.
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Doubt creeps up like a snake imperceptibly and envelops the soul with poison. Disappointment, leaving a deep wound. Love and faith will heal the wound.
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Frustration happens in the head. When the heart still remembers the words, look, hands.
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Disappointment due to poor quality lasts much longer than satisfaction from a cheap price!
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Disappointed .. Yes, so what? But tomorrow I will smile.
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Was it good for you? Now I am tormented by doubt ... I thought that you were fate, but it turned out - a misunderstanding ...
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The magnitude of the disappointments depends on the magnitude of the hopes.
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Remember: five times out of six, the light at the end of the tunnel is the light of an oncoming train.
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Don't trust the disappointed. It is almost always powerless.
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I was disappointed in just one person ... and it feels like I lost the whole world!
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Reputation is earned over the years, but lost in an instant...
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That's why men are like that - first they lift them up to the clouds, and then they pull them off so painfully?
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The biggest successes often come after the bitterest disappointments.
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The more I marvel at the selfless devotion of my dog, the more disappointed I am in some people...
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When a person is disappointed in a loved one, for him there comes a disappointment in all people ...
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I'm sick of you playing with my feelings.
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Don't be disappointed. Disappointment turns into a powerful weapon in the hands of the enemy.
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My heart is broken from the blows of your indifference ...
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To stop loving someone, it is useful to present him in a funny and ridiculous way.
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How much rubbish do not appease. It will still be ugly.
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When you put the whole world at the feet of a scoundrel. Do not cry when he wipes his feet on the world.
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People who have fallen in my eyes are breaking to death...
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The silence of some people from our lives makes us stronger, or kills us slowly, we will find out the result later ... and perhaps too late.
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Is happiness always replaced by disappointment over time?
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The fear of disappointment is too small a price to pay for what can become your happiness...
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If you are still capable of being disappointed, then you are still young.
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How disgusting and painful to be disappointed in people! It feels like your world has collapsed!
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Probably, someday I will be able to forgive you, and get up again, and live again ...
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People are disappointing. I know. I even expect it. But what if one day I realize that I myself disappoint others ..
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Do not refuse immediately, let disappointment come in drop by drop.
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It’s impossible to deceive me anymore ... It’s just not possible to deceive someone who has already become disillusioned with people and does not believe them.
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- Disappointed - Nefig was fascinated))) ...
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"Who does not expect anything will never be disappointed."
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If you want to be good to everyone, you end up disappointing everyone.
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Love is blind... Tears run... And where were your eyes?
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I decided to live simpler ... After 5 minutes, I realized that it simply couldn’t be easier.
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Love deprives mind ... And disappointment returns!
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Give me freedom! I want to be disappointed in her.
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At least think, at least don’t think, but no one canceled the surprises from life.
Statuses about disappointment in people
One of the most painful sensations is disappointment in the person in whom you believed. The material will tell you how to deal with such an emotion.
Dictionary interpretation
The range of feelings is limitless. The colors of experiences constantly fluctuate from bright pink to bottomless black. And if intense colors reflect positivity and warmth, then dark shades symbolize mental suffering.
Broken hope belongs to the cold palette. Dictionaries explain disappointment as follows: these are negative emotions, the cause of which was unjustified expectations that were placed on a certain person or his actions.
But resentment, disappointment or loss of trust can concern not only the people and duties that were assigned to them, but also their own unrealized plans, ideas and dreams.
Experts often compare this feeling with frustration. But here it is worth noting that the first, unlike the second, does not provide for the loss of the desire to fight further and go towards the goal.
The trauma that disappointment inflicts can disarm a person and become an obstacle to happiness. Then the road to success seems insurmountable.
writers theory
One of the favorite themes of literary geniuses of all ages and peoples is disappointment. Quotes from their books, poems and films are remembered by heart by millions of people. Such aphorisms become especially relevant when a person remains face to face with this feeling.
Each of the writers described these emotions in their own words, but the essence has always remained the same. The invisible companions of disappointment are pain, hatred and misunderstandings. They interfere with sensible thinking and a normal life.
Many great people have tried to come up with a recipe for happiness that will save you from resentment and disappointment. Duchess Sarah Churchill, one of the most influential women in the history of England, believed that disappointment in a person and in life in general is a “gift” that comes with age. The lady believed that only young people do not suffer from despondency. Indeed, it is easier for children and adolescents to forgive and start from scratch.
The ability to perceive situations easier is the first secret of immunity from sadness. Sadness does not knock on the door of someone who does not have time for it. Stormy, busy days and weeks are a panacea for many mental suffering.
Happiness Lessons
Another tip from experts is to learn how to filter your problems. If a loved one became the cause of disappointment, then the world changes dramatically. Amorous deeds affect us so strongly that they can spread from one heart area, like a virus, to other areas of life.
When someone experiences disappointment in the person he loves, he begins to subconsciously look for negativity where there was none before. Immediately not satisfied with the financial situation, physical data, career prospects, and so on. Relationships deteriorate not only with a partner, but also with his friends and relatives.
Therefore, it is worth protecting love troubles from other directions. Instead, look for support where you can do it. Sometimes it is a frank heart-to-heart conversation that frees the heart from pain.
Instructions for broken hearts
The next step to help fight discouragement is to analyze the situation. The first thing to be done at this stage is to weigh the pros and cons, to sort out the issue in detail. Try to be as rational as possible about the event that upset you. Perhaps disappointment in a person who is dear to you is not a disaster, but a small misunderstanding.
If it’s hard to assess the situation on your own, you can turn to a friend you trust for help. Judgment from the side must be honest. Then the problem will be easier to understand.
Next, you should consider whether the act that upset you dear person really has the power to cross out all the good things that happened in the past. If there was more warmth and love in the relationship than bitterness from unjustified expectations, then it is worth looking at the current situation again.
Time will help overcome negativity. It is known to be the best doctor. And although he fails to completely erase the wounds of the past, nevertheless the scars heal and stop whining.
Rehabilitation course
An integral part of human life is disappointment. Ivan Turgenev's quotes have always amazed with their frankness and rudeness. This amazing man believed that the cause of our pain is ourselves. After all, it was in our imagination that an ideal character without flaws was born. Reality soon corrected this mistake.
If you still fail to regain the trust of your loved one and be fascinated by him again, you will have to learn to live with the wound.
The path to "recovery" is the understanding that broken ideals most often did not have a chance to exist in the real world. Disappointment breaks illusions that have no place in real life. It is worth noting that in this way rose-colored glasses are removed from the eyes.
Otherwise, if the cause of the pain is not your high expectations, but the shortcomings of your partner, you should thank fate for opening all the cards in front of you. It is better to face the disadvantages of a loved one now than to learn to put up with his flaws later.
The formula for success is hope
Not only pain and hatred accompany complete disappointment. Hope comes along. The writer Carmen Silva knew a lot about this. This woman from a noble family was once the Queen of Romania. Her life was full of ups and downs. However, she didn't give up. One of the most popular sayings is: "When hope leaves us, it does not disappear, but goes to dig the grave of the one who lost it."
Of course, disappointment will always haunt dreams. But the essence of life is that, despite all the troubles, not to lose faith. And then everything will be fine.
Each situation that brought disappointment in a loved one will play the role of a fly in the ointment for a long time. Every relationship needs to be worked on. Especially a lot of effort is worth making to restore the lost trust. But if your soul mate is worthy of the strength and energy spent, then the union will only grow stronger.
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