How to get rid of laziness professional advice from a psychologist. Getting rid of laziness once and for all: advice from a psychologist

It happens that depression is caused by some unpleasant event, such as the death of a relative. And it happens that this ailment manifests itself as if for no reason. In fact, there is always a reason, it's just that it is either hidden, or there are many of these reasons. For example, a person may experience depression due to constant stress, fatigue, alcohol use, family problems, lack of goals and aspirations, etc. All these things together can form a favorable psychological background for the development of depression.

From the client's medical history.

"Symptoms of depression provoked difficulties at work and in communication. Apathy and lack of purpose gave rise to laziness, and sudden outbursts of irritation or despondency reflected badly on those around me."

How to get rid of depression?

We get rid of depression - we begin to work on ourselves.

Eliminate negative ideas.

There are some ideas that make it very difficult to recover from bouts of mental blues. I must say right away that these ideas are false and need to get rid of them. I will elaborate on each of these ideas below.

Idea 1- I am depressed because I am such a person (nervous, sensitive, fine mental organization), this is how I am arranged and there is nothing I can do about it.

There is no more destructive delusion for the development of personality! You are depressed, not because you are who you are, but because you have not done anything to change! Each person is able to change himself, each person has a huge potential for positive metamorphoses.

In order to stop experiencing depression, many people will have to work on themselves and even change their outlook on things. Get ready for it. It's not easy, but it's certainly possible.

Idea 2- I'm depressed because some circumstances of my life are to blame (I live in a bad country, I don't have money to buy myself everything I want, I'm surrounded by idiots, I don't have a girlfriend/boyfriend, I parents did not like, etc.).

This is also a rather dangerous misconception. When you feel bad, you are overcome by despondency, your brain tries by all means to find the cause of the situation. The search for a cause precedes the determination of a solution, which is why many people cling to these imaginary causes as lifelines. This helps them to realize that they know why they are suffering and know how to stop this suffering.

This gives them a sense of control over the situation. They think: “as soon as I change my job or place of residence, my depression will stop, I know what to do, now I am suffering, but later, when I move to a new country, divorce my wife, buy myself a yacht, everything will be fine.” This is how hope appears. Therefore, depressed people are extremely reluctant to part with such ideas.

The brain begins with great zeal to sort out those circumstances that cause discomfort and bring them under the causes of depression. It can be difficult for us to abstract from our perception and understand that the whole point is in this perception itself.

A negative view of things, negative emotions, constant resentment and despondency make an extremely strong distortion in our view of things. You can look at the world through rose-colored glasses, or you can observe it, on the contrary, looking through glasses with cloudy, gray glasses.

Depression makes things look different from what they are to ordinary, pure perception. We begin to pay attention to the bad sides of life, our shortcomings seem huge to us, the problems are insurmountable, and the whole life is a series of senseless suffering.

If you suffer from depression, your perception is illusory, erroneous and does not reflect the real state of affairs. It's like you're under the influence of a drug! Don't believe this perception! Need to change it!

If you cannot be happy with what you have, then you cannot be happy under any circumstances! Wherever you go, no matter what woman you find, no matter how much wealth you have, your negative perception will remain with you.

And you can’t run away from it just by moving to another place! But if you change your perception, you may realize that the conditions in which you live are not so bad, your friends are not so terrible, and in life, there seems to be something worth living for! Nothing in the world around you will change, just your views will change!

In my life, for example, there are still things that do not suit me and that I want to change (for example, working conditions, not having my own living space). But these things no longer make me unhappy, because I myself have become different, although before it seemed to me that it was because of these things that I felt bad.

When I try to convince people that the whole problem is in themselves, in their perception of life, I run into an insurmountable barrier. They begin to show a violent reluctance to part with the idea that the causes of their depression are rooted in some external circumstances. After all, their hope is based on this idea, a false, groundless, illusory hope!

Of course, it is necessary to change in life, what does not suit you in it. But, first of all, you need to start with yourself!

Idea 3- Depression is a purely psychological disease.

This is not true. Depression is also related to the state of your body. Bad habits, fatigue, stress can lead to the appearance of this disease. And quite the opposite: playing sports, keeping your body in good shape, regular rest can help prevent depression.

Stop looking for the causes of your unhappiness only in some lofty matters: in a feeling of existential emptiness, loss of Faith, etc. Pay attention also to how your body feels, whether it is healthy enough and whether it receives all the vitamins it needs to work.

Strengthen your body.

Depression can be caused not only by psychological aspects your personality. Your mental state is highly dependent on your physical health. You are unlikely to get rid of despondency if you often drink alcohol, smoke, chronically lack sleep and lead a sedentary lifestyle.

Alcohol and other drugs (including antidepressants) provide only temporary relief, but in the long run, they only aggravate the situation and increase the chance of further development of depression. Quit drinking and quit smoking.

Physical activity, sports exercises not only strengthen your body and increase physical tone, but also improve your mood, relieve fatigue and stress. Sport is a natural antidepressant. Sport allows you to raise the level of endorphins (“hormones of happiness”) in your brain, causing joy and euphoria.

This way to cheer up does not have side effects in the form of depression, insomnia and decreased sexual function, like many antidepressants. A side effect of sports as a means of raising the mood is a healthy body.

If you are not into sports yet, then start doing at least exercises in the morning and light jogging. If running is still hard for you, take long walks in the fresh air. Notice how short exercise and walks boost your mood and improve your overall well-being. Track this effect, feel it, and remember it so that your brain associates the feeling of pleasure with useful activities, like sports.

I am sure that yoga classes are great help to cope with mental blues, besides, they are very useful for your body. Try it!

Lack of vitamins, junk food can also greatly affect your psychological state, so try to eat right: visit fast food less often, eat less rubbish like sausages or chips.

Develop willpower.

The key to successfully getting rid of depression is the development of willpower. Without willpower, you cannot force yourself to exercise. Instead of jogging, you will be left to grieve at home. Instead of practicing meditation regularly, you will choose to easy way: go to the doctor and ask him to prescribe another pill for you.

Without willpower, you won’t be able to pull yourself together and say to yourself: “let me feel bad and don’t want to do anything, but I’ll still get out of bed, wipe this suffering mine from my face and do what will help me get rid of depression forever !"

Depression is fueled by your lack of will, weakness and laziness. On these qualities, it grows and grows stronger by leaps and bounds! If you can't say no to your weaknesses, if you can't control yourself when you feel like complaining about life, if you can't force yourself to forget your gloom when you have to work, then it will be difficult for you to eradicate depression.

When I began to actively fight depression (for a long time I did not make any active attempts to fight), I discovered one remarkable property of willpower.

Sometimes I lay and suffered from another bout of blues: I didn’t want to do anything, I only wanted to whine and complain. At one point, I realized what to do. I realized that you can’t go on about these desires, but you need to do the opposite! If, because of despondency, you want to lie down and complain, you need to get up and do something, for example, clean the house, do other things. If you want to complain about the life of a friend or just infect him with your despondency, then instead you need to stretch a smile on your face and say something good, pleasant!

It's not easy at first. There is a very strong resistance, as if you are going against the wind of incredible strength, which blows your body in the opposite direction to the movement. But as soon as this resistance is overcome, a wonderful relief appears, even some kind of triumph! A triumph of willpower! Fear and despondency recede! You feel power and control over the situation!

Willpower is one of the most effective tools that allows you to achieve great success in the fight against depression and panic attacks and other types of blues. Antidepressants and other pills not only do not contribute to the development of willpower, but, on the contrary, can only suppress it. After all, you get used to easy solutions: you ate a pill - it became easier. It does not take a lot of strength and patience to pop pills into your mouth.

Medications do not teach you to step over yourself, through your despondency, to actively resist the blues, to develop the qualities of your personality - which is so important in the fight against depression. The pills do everything for you, weakening your ability to fight on your own.

That is why the effect often disappears with the end of taking antidepressants - the disease returns again. And why shouldn't he come back if you haven't learned anything, if you haven't increased your mental immunity, if you haven't eliminated the very prerequisites for the onset of depression, but only struggled with the symptoms?

If you are weak, prone to anxiety and worries, do not know how to control your feelings, then pills will not cure you of this! You will remain the same, and with it there will be a risk of another blues.

Work on yourself. Develop willpower. Read my article on how to develop willpower.

Strengthen the nervous system, learn to relax.

This can be attributed to physical health, but I'd better write about it in a separate paragraph. Anxiety, nervousness, irritability - all these are prerequisites for the onset of depression. In addition to physical wellness procedures that strengthen nervous system, learn to restrain and control nervousness.

Learn stress management and relaxation techniques.

How to stop being nervous

How to learn to relax

Learn to control your emotions, take care of yourself.

Negative emotions can also serve as a source of discouragement. Anger, envy, irritation, hatred, pathological jealousy - all this poisons your personality, making it more prone to despondency. Learn to control yourself and get rid of negative experiences.

To learn how to do this, read the article how to control your emotions.

Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself.

Stop complaining about life! Stop telling your friends how unhappy you are - they have enough problems of their own. It only poisons your mood and sets you on a tone of self-pity. Try to focus on positive aspects life. There are people whose life is much harder than yours. There are those who live in conditions of constant danger to life, deprivation and hunger.

I assure you that if you have enough food, water, housing and some health, then this is almost all you need to be happy! Learn to be happy with what is, and not be sad about what is not!

Train yourself to endure the blues and heartache, do not identify yourself with this state. Act and behave as if it is not there, forget about it, do not pay attention to it, do not let it take possession of you. This state is just a chain chemical reactions that take place in your brain. And it is in your power to control this state.

If you cry and complain, constantly thinking about how unhappy you are because of depression, then you will only increase your ailment. After all, depression is not only a state of your body, it is also all your experiences associated with it. The disease itself is not so scary when you begin to suffer because of it and wrap your anxieties, unhappy thoughts and fears on top of it!

Even a common cold with a temperature is easier if you do not lose heart, do not whine and wait for recovery. Treat depression like a cold. Be patient, this is just a temporary state of mind. Things around are not so terrible, the situation is not so hopeless. The fact that everything is bad makes you think of an ailment - do not succumb to this!

Get rid of depression - improve the external conditions of life.

Practice meditation for inner balance

Meditation helped me get out of the pool of despondency and pessimism, to find joy and faith in myself. I forgot about depression and panic attacks. Meditation calms and stabilizes the psyche, gives a good mood and relieves stress. Laboratory studies of meditation have shown that the practice of meditation affects the brain, increasing the activity of electrical alpha waves, at the frequency of which the brain begins to work. Such activity contributes to a calm, relaxed state.

Regular meditation practice can help with depression, although it cannot be said that it will help everyone. Even if with the help of them it will not be possible to completely get rid of this ailment, then practice will help you to endure these attacks more easily and somehow control them.

Create comfortable living conditions

If many people live in one small room, then this can cause feelings of psychological discomfort. And it's not even about the people themselves, but about their number. No matter how good relations in a team or family are, tightness, lack of solitude can greatly spoil the mood and interfere with a good rest.

If you have the opportunity, move to a larger room, move from your parents to a separate apartment (or cottage). Let this apartment be small and located far away, but housing will be more comfortable if you live, say, with one wife than with your wife and parents.

Probably, those of you who have housing problems will now think to themselves: “Oh, that's it! That's why I'm unhappy!" No, that's not the only reason.

Even in the absence of comfortable housing, you can find your happiness! It's also up to you. If you do not yet have the opportunity to change your living circumstances, then work on yourself, develop your qualities, this will help you endure adverse life circumstances more steadfastly.

Even if you have your own living space, create coziness and comfort conditions there. Tidy up the house, get a pet if you don't have one. Better cat. Better yet, two cats. Or a cat and a dog.

An animal won’t make you happy right away, but a four-legged friend helps relieve stress, brightens up loneliness and improves your mood.

Find the right job

Don't like your job? Change her! Don't like working at all? Create your business and organize it in such a way that it does not take much time and effort! Think about what you want from life. Maybe it's time to start moving towards something, and not sit and passively contemplate how nothing changes year after year, and all your dreams melt like ice in the sun?

If you find your life purpose and start moving towards it, it will fill your life with meaning and give you the joy of existence. After all, some way will open for you, you will stop living without any purpose! The lack of meaning in life and the collapse of hopes can provoke despondency.

What is stopping you from moving towards your dreams? Most likely, only your internal limitations: laziness, fear and doubt. Start slowly realizing your wildest desires. Learn, read, communicate with people, learn about all the possibilities that exist in this world.

Working 5/2 at a job you don't like, as supposedly "everyone" does, is not the only viable alternative. There are many other opportunities, you just need to learn about them, and not sit back and wait for these opportunities to find you. Move and learn new things, explore different options, make plans.

But it's not just about work.

Even doing activities that do not bring pleasure, you can find your happiness!

But still, you need to strive for the best! So start looking for new opportunities!

Update: Let me explain the above statement a bit. Lack of purpose is not always one of the causes of depression. It's more of a consequence. Therefore, finding and finding a purpose is not always a panacea for depression. It is difficult to find a life calling when nothing pleases you, nothing inspires you. A chronically depressed person is not inspired by opportunities to improve his life in some way. Everything is equally bad for him.

To find your goal, you need to work on yourself, meditate, achieve at least some kind of internal balance. You don't have to start by trying to find a stimulus when you're feeling down and not attracted to anything. Start with yourself. Purpose and incentive are secondary.

Find the right life partner

Look for a way out of your loneliness. Find the right pair for you. I cannot teach you how to look for a suitable partner, how to decide on an acquaintance - all this is the topic of separate articles. The only thing I can advise is to choose such a person who will be strong, balanced, balanced and without unnecessary cockroaches in the head.

If you are a subtle, sensitive nature, prone to feelings, then you do not need to meet a person of the same character! Maybe he will be close to you in spirit, but you will not learn anything from him, just like he from you. His and your shortcomings will develop within your union.

It's kind of like incestuous marriages. When people who are in kinship ties give birth to offspring, then it turns out to be weak and defective, as it inherits the weaknesses and defects of the father and mother. But people who are not relatives are much more likely to have healthy children.

Therefore, you do not need to choose a person with the same shortcomings as you. Your union will inherit your weaknesses and will be fragile and short-lived and will become a source of new suffering.

But, do not forget that even in loneliness you can find your happiness!

Get out into nature more often

I recommend to those who suffer from depression a calm, measured rest. It is better to relax in quiet places than to wallow in the revelry of a noisy resort. If you just try to distract yourself from depression through unbridled fun, parties and alcohol, it will not do any good, but only harm.

Learn to enjoy nature and peace, walk in parks and forests, go to the country. Stay alone with yourself more often, try to understand yourself, listen to yourself! Fresh air, peace and quiet work wonders!

But, do not forget that even in a noisy city you can be happy!

Final remarks

As you can see, there is a lot of work to be done. You can't get away with pills alone. If you still decide to take antidepressants, then combine them with other therapies that I described above. Meditate every day, develop willpower, learn a positive outlook on things, go in for sports. I can't imagine how you can get rid of depression without changing yourself!

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How to overcome laziness and apathy at home on your own?

How to overcome laziness and apathy at home? In the life of any person, a turning point can come when he loses the desire to do something, and he loses interest in life. A person begins to be lazy, quickly get tired. This state is characterized as apathy.

Causes of laziness and apathy

Apathy cannot arise by itself. There are reasons for this, for example:

1. Not enough energy to do anything. Most often this occurs when there is no energy, because a person completely devotes himself to work or study. Physical exhaustion leads to emotional exhaustion. Because of this, fatigue begins, and then laziness.
2. Sedentary and sedentary lifestyle. It harms not only the muscles and organs, but also the mental state.
3. Wrong nutrition. It causes digestive problems, and then affects the emotional state. In addition, due to bad and high-calorie food, excess weight may appear, which will significantly reduce self-esteem.
4. Wasting energy on various useless activities. If a person does not do what he wants, then he does not receive pleasure.
5. Strong experiences. Most often, representatives of the fair sex are subject to this. Parting with a man, problems at work, difficult relationships with children - all this causes depression and lethargy.

How to get rid of laziness and apathy if you don’t want to do anything? First of all, you need to pull yourself together and analyze your condition.

How to find purpose in life?

The reasons for apathy can be different, but one of them may be the lack of a goal in life. When a person begins a period of growing up, he faces a difficult choice: how to live on, what to devote himself to? There are a huge number of good and necessary professions, but it is not always possible to do what you love. Therefore, a person can overtake a depressive state.

How to get rid of apathy and laziness in this case? To prevent this state, you should remember that the goal in life is very important. If it is absent, then there is no need to develop and do anything. The person just goes with the flow. But if an individual has a goal, he begins to fill with energy, he has a desire to do something. He gets up early in the morning, he goes to his dream, he is able to overcome all obstacles. Therefore, you need to be able to dream, set goals and achieve them. However, they must be huge. Small goals are not inspiring. If a big and unattainable dream, the more interesting it is to strive for it.

How to cope with laziness and apathy if you can not decide on a goal? You need to do some kind of meditation. Sit in silence, think about how a person would like to live? Some say that they are satisfied with everything. This is a direct path to depression. A person should always strive for something new, otherwise there will be a rollback.

First you need to remember your childhood dreams, which some people have already given up on. It is they who can direct thoughts in the right direction. After that, you need to write on a beautiful piece of paper all your wildest dreams and outline a plan of action. Take small steps every day to reach your goal. Not everything will turn out right away, but do not give up.

How to go to your goal?

In the life of any person, even the most purposeful and stubborn, there are times when you want to quit everything. How to get rid of laziness and apathy in such a period?

Absolutely all people living in the world have a different character. Some are strong, some are weak. But you don't have to give up. Everyone is able to achieve their dreams. To do this, you need to overcome your fear. Psychology says that there is no goal in the world that cannot be achieved. However, you need to work on yourself. It is necessary to gradually develop self-confidence, perseverance and willpower. Get rid of bad habits. They interfere with a full life.

To become successful person You need to learn to take responsibility for yourself and not shift it to others. No one can decide for a person what he needs and what he has the ability to do. Only he himself can choose how to live and overcome all obstacles.

So, we get rid of fears and insecurities, and move on. The one who doesn't give up wins.

How to cultivate willpower?

Some psychologists argue that depression occurs in those who suffer from a lack of willpower, so it is extremely important to nurture it in yourself.

How to overcome laziness and apathy and become a strong-willed person?

A bad mood and unwillingness to do anything may arise due to the fact that a person wants to justify his own weakness and cannot change anything. To overcome these obstacles, it is necessary to use the following psychological techniques:

1. You need to start telling yourself that everything will work out, no matter what.
2. Stop looking for a convenient time to do something. It may never come if you wait for it.
3. Learn to make decisions on your own. And you need to keep in mind that they may not always be correct.
4. Know how to listen to your intuition. If you train her, she will be able to give clear and correct signals.
5. You need to tune in only for the best, but at the same time not be afraid to make mistakes.
6. You should constantly improve and educate yourself. Various trainings, webinars and books on positive psychology can help with this.
7. You need to relieve tension and stress with the help of meditation or sports. It is not recommended to resort to alcoholic beverages. They can only aggravate the depression. The problem will not be solved, and besides, the state of health will worsen, especially if a person drinks too much. The next day, he will be overtaken by a hangover with all the ensuing consequences.
8. Start eating right and exercising. Healthy food improves mood, improves the condition of all organs, relieves excess weight.
9. Sports activities develop endurance, willpower, give confidence and improve health. It is not necessary to exhaust yourself with heavy physical exercises. You can do yoga or qigong exercises.

How to deal with laziness and apathy? You can only do this on your own. Of course, other people can influence a person. He can trust them and listen to their opinion, but he must make decisions on his own. In no case should you communicate with losers and whiners. It is better to stay away from them so as not to lose your own positive attitude. No need to try to change them. It's useless. Until a person himself realizes and does not want to change, no one can help him.

Apathy and laziness are not fatal diseases, but if nothing is done about them, they can lead to serious mental disorders. If a person feels that he cannot cope on his own, then he should consult a specialist. He will help him get out of this state before it worsens.

The main thing in the life of every person is to find his purpose. When it is, there is no place in the soul for laziness and an apathetic state. A person simply has no time to be lazy and idle, there is no time to become depressed. He enjoys life, dreams and achieves the fulfillment of his most secret desires. A positive attitude works wonders. If a person is set for success, then the Universe will help him.

It would seem that there are important things to do, and the time to complete them is quite suitable, and the deadlines are running out, but still it’s impossible to gather strength and start working, the question arises how to deal with laziness and apathy - 10 tips from a psychologist will surely tell you the right answer .

Before giving advice on how to deal with apathy, or what is needed to expel laziness from your life, we will try to understand the concepts themselves, as well as the reasons for their appearance in our lives. If, on a subconscious level, a person tries in every possible way to postpone the moment when it is necessary to get down to business, this can be based on a variety of facts. For example, the fear of causing a negative reaction or negative consequences by performing one or another action, or simply the lack of incentive and desire to start any work.

How to deal with apathy?

The reason for so many failures is precisely the lack of desire in a person to start changing his life, past, present or future. On the one hand, apathy is the lack of desire to do something, in view of the recent failure, disappointment, failure, problems in personal or professional life, or health problems. A person begins to feel sorry for himself, and this state actually tightens him, forming apathetic moods and a pessimistic outlook on life in general. If we talk about laziness, then the reasons for its manifestations are:

How to overcome laziness?

The fight against laziness is a serious task, which must be approached with all seriousness. It is because of it that a person gives up, stops moving towards his goals, does not move forward, does not evaluate the surrounding circumstances, and gradually begins to degrade, lagging behind life and progress in general. Each individual, in essence, has ambitions that form his aspirations, desires and dreams, and laziness, on the contrary, stops them, turning a person into a creature without goals and desires.

We have previously considered:

The fight against laziness is not an easy task, but it should be remembered that each person is able to win it. The proof of this is the lack of laziness in moments when the body urgently needs something. For example, when you are thirsty, you are ready to walk quite a lot in order to find water, but going for a run in the morning is sometimes so difficult. Of course, constant exhaustion of the body is also not an option. The body needs rest, pauses for recovery, but only in combination with work, vigorous activity and employment. For some, in order to cope with laziness and apathy, it is enough just to take a day off from the hustle and bustle of work problems.

How to deal with laziness and apathy - psychologists say ...

1. Hard work means good rest.

2. Sleep mode

Strange as it may seem, but in order to overcome apathy, psychologists advise waking up correctly. The essence of the advice is that you need to forget about wallowing in bed for an hour after waking up. We woke up - immediately get up and proceed to the morning procedures. In addition, the fight against laziness involves going to bed early, of course, we are not talking about falling asleep at sunset, but you should not stay up until midnight either. Discipline is the first enemy of laziness, so having strict regime will certainly help to drive away the desire to be lazy. Do not forget about morning exercises, at least fifteen minutes of sports exercises can invigorate you for the whole day, just like a good breakfast or contrasting mental treatments.

3. A healthy mind in a healthy body

4. Plan as a way to structure your time

It is not for nothing that experts do not get tired of reminding you of the need to plan your time, down to the smallest detail. Surely, many have noticed that with a clear plan, the work goes faster, and the results of the work are pleasantly surprising. Moreover, the plan should take into account not only work time, but also rest, household chores and other nuances, even meals and attending various events. This will allow you to cope with laziness and apathy, because a plan is a plan, and no one wants to break it. In order for even routine things to become interesting, you should reward yourself for doing them. Let's say you need to do a general cleaning on the weekend? Then at the end, promise yourself to go to the cinema to see your favorite movie or take a walk with friends.

5. Priority

Often we put off this or that business, referring to the fact that it is not urgent or important for the current moment. In order to avoid such manifestations, and fight apathy, it is necessary to realize the consequences of such a shift. For example, postponing today's report until tomorrow will have to reschedule a workout or a trip to the pool, and this will entail further disruptions in the schedule. No wonder we feel such a surge of strength and relief when we manage to complete all the tasks on time.

6. The power of motivation and rewards

7. Focus

8. Change is needed

Sometimes a shake-up is simply necessary for our consciousness in order to cope with laziness and apathy, so many psychologists talk about the benefits of change. Thanks to new emotions, impressions and opportunities, there is a desire to achieve goals, develop, start something from scratch. We are talking about a change of work, appearance, new acquaintances or travel - all this will positively affect the performance of the individual.

9. Wedge wedge

10. Change settings

I have a number of goals, and I will certainly achieve them;

Apathy is not capable of leading me astray, it is under my complete control;

I don't want to sit back and waste my life on this;

Rest for me is a way of recharging, necessary to achieve the goal.

We have previously considered:

Thus, a person gradually eradicates the cause of laziness, because he himself inspires himself that he has no time to be lazy, and rest is needed to achieve his goals.

Motivation to get rid of laziness forever

Surely many will have a question, is it possible that if I follow all these tips, then very soon I will achieve everything that I have long wanted? It is too early to talk about such global results, because here you need to adjust everything in the aggregate, but getting rid of apathy and laziness will help you in many ways, namely:

A punctual and hardworking person is always appreciated by management and respected by colleagues;

The correct daily routine and a clear plan will allow you to allocate time for rest and your favorite business;

A person who has fulfilled all the goals set for the day feels morally satisfied, and his mind relaxes;

The improvement of the material condition has a beneficial effect on the general psyche of a person;

Not a lazy, hardworking individual always becomes an example to follow;

By replacing morning sleep with care and exercise, you can improve your appearance and general physical condition;

Without laziness, life is much more interesting.

AT recent times Are you feeling lazy and bored? Don't feel like doing anything? Lost interest in everything? Are you increasingly hearing from adults and friends that you are a lazy person? Let's figure out what is the reason for your laziness and how to deal with it.

If bouts of laziness rarely happen to you - this is normal. Maybe you're just tired and need to rest. However, when such a blues drags on, it is time to take active measures. But keep in mind, laziness will not give up its positions just like that!

The absolute unwillingness to do anything, especially when necessary, is laziness. It is the opposite of will. Will- psychological process. With its help, a person regulates his behavior and actions necessary to achieve the goal.

Don't confuse laziness with procrastination. Instead of doing the right thing, the procrastinator is constantly distracted. For example, viewing a page in social networks or talking on the phone. Procrastinators are very fond of taking on a huge amount of work, their enthusiasm goes through the roof. Only now they cannot cope with them in time (there are still a lot of other more “important ones”). The lazy person not only does not want to do anything, but also does not feel joy from new tasks at all, and the fact that the work will not be completed on time is indifferent to him.

Causes of laziness

Fatigue

Yes, one of the causes of laziness can be fatigue, which means you need to rest. Put aside everything, leave gadgets for a while. Take a walk down the street or just take a nap. You will not notice how the energy for new deeds and achievements will appear. If you constantly feel that you do not have enough strength for anything, and rest does not help, you need the help of a doctor.

Psychotherapist of the outpatient department No. 2 of the City Center for Borderline Conditions Daria Degtyareva:

“In Minsk, you can contact the City Clinical Children's Psychiatric Dispensary, which is located on the street. Ya. Luchiny, 6. Psychotherapists, psychiatrists and psychologists work there. Phone - 320 88 71.

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Temperament

There is no direct connection between temperament and laziness. Temperament is a way of relating and responding to what is happening, but nothing more. At the same time, in any activity you need to take into account the peculiarities of your character, know them and use them correctly.

Daria Degtyareva:

“Some people work better in the morning. Therefore, it is desirable to solve the most important matters at this time of the day. For example, prepare for an exam and study in the morning and repeat in the evening. If you are overly active and easily distracted, then do the work in parts. It often happens that “appetite comes with eating” and as soon as you start, the work will go by itself. Getting started is the hardest thing, and that has to be remembered.”

Laziness can be a reaction to boring monotonous work. But in this case, it can be outwitted.

Daria Degtyareva:

“Every 10-15 minutes, change the load, for example, do 5 squats. And the figure will tighten up, and you will do the job better. ”

No motivation

Sometimes an elementary lack of motivation (the desire to act in order to achieve a result) leads to the fact that all your efforts are in vain. Start small. Set a goal for yourself. Think about what needs to be done to achieve it. You don't have to try to do everything at once. Move towards your goal gradually. Imagine what you will get if you fulfill all the conditions. And do not forget to praise yourself for every, no matter how small, victory.

Life hack from Daria: If you need to read 50 pages of a book, but you don’t feel like doing this, then you can divide them and reward yourself with something tasty every 10 pages. For example, candy or fruit.

Can I? Self-doubt

What if it doesn't work? Lack of knowledge, skills and willpower. What is the way out of the situation? Read the paragraph above. Goal - plan - small steps - result.

Daria Degtyareva:

“The one who does nothing is never wrong. It is important to remember this and not be afraid of failure or mistakes. The main thing is to understand what they are for and “be friends with them”. Mistakes give us experience that will tell us how to do better next time. A calm attitude towards your work gives good results. Emotions do not cover you, and you are focused (s) on specific actions.

lack of will

The most common cause of laziness. And it’s really possible to deal with it (if you really want to!). There is a method - You should allocate no more than 15 minutes to complete the task. This is much easier than getting down to business knowing that you will have to do something for a long time. Then you can slightly increase the interval allotted for the task. Gradually, with each additional minute, you will be drawn into the work process.

Stop being lazy - it's kind of a good habit, and it, according to scientists, is formed within 21 days. At the same time, it all depends on the characteristics of a person: for someone, it takes a month for a habit to become a second “I”, and for someone it takes much more. The main condition is constancy.

How to overcome laziness

• Don't try to complete a task in one sitting. Divide it into small parts and take 10 minutes to complete each. Set a timer and work clearly during this time. Then 2 minutes of rest and get back to work. And so 5 approaches. It will only take an hour, and things will be done decently.
• Praise yourself for every task you complete. Everyone has their own ways of doing this. Then any work will be argued.
• To boost morale turn on your favorite music that lifts your spirits.
• Don't quit halfway through what you started. Often the result is not immediately visible and you need to learn patience.
• And one more way. Sometimes, to cope with the next bout of laziness, it is enough to do nothing. Nothing at all. Just sit down. After a while, inaction will get tired of you and you will be covered with a desire to do something. We checked. Works!

Daria Degtyareva:

“In fact, it doesn’t matter what character or temperament you have, it is important to learn how to manage your laziness, otherwise it will begin to control you. And for this you need to know yourself better and trust yourself.”

Don't be discouraged and you will succeed!

Alfred Adler

How much we could achieve in this life if we knew how to defeat one of our most powerful enemies - laziness! However, even knowing about the harmfulness of laziness, many of us cannot cope with it. Laziness dominates many people, not allowing them to fully realize themselves - it ruins a person's life, turning it into an empty and meaningless existence. However, you - my dear readers, have already embarked on the path of getting rid of laziness - having found this article on the Internet and intending to read it to the end. In it, I will tell you about how to get rid of laziness and start living a new one - more lively and interesting life in which you can achieve any success you want.

I will teach you to overcome your laziness and help you become an active and purposeful person, able to set ambitious goals for yourself and achieve them. So let's agree - you promise me to read this article to the end - carefully, slowly, delving into every word I wrote, and I will share with you very useful knowledge in it, helping to cope with laziness. Deal? Fine. Then let's start studying this issue.

So, let me first explain to you in a nutshell what laziness is and what it is for. You understand, if nature has built something into us, it means that it is necessary for something. Laziness is an instinctive energy conservation program that is a derivative of the self-preservation instinct, as well as an adaptive skill that allows you to adapt to situations that require passive behavior. And to some extent, laziness is even the engine of progress, as it helps people who do not want to exert themselves physically to think very creatively, thanks to which they manage to achieve maximum results. Here we are talking precisely about mental stress, about ingenuity, about the desire to do something in a new way, so as not to follow the path already trodden by someone - but to find your own solution to a particular problem, or your own life path. In this sense, laziness helps a person to move to a higher quality level of perception of the world, but this does not mean that it leads him to idleness, from which a person begins to decompose and degrade, rather, it calls him to more perfect actions, to more energy efficient work. Roughly speaking, if you don’t want to go far for water, invent a water pipe; if you don’t want to dig a hole by hand, invent an excavator. Laziness - protects our body and helps us find easy ways to solve certain problems. But if you do not listen to it, but follow its lead, then it will lead us to a state of doing nothing, in which we will not want to solve any problems at all. Our body should not wear out, but it should not rot either. Therefore, laziness, on the one hand, forces us to save our energy and use it efficiently, and on the other hand, it turns us into loafers and parasites, wanting nothing and not being able to do anything. Our body, our body - wants to keep itself alive and working as long as possible, in a way known to it, thanks to instincts. It, like everything else in this world, has its own lifespan. Over time, our body wears out, and the more we strain it, both physically and mentally, the faster it becomes useless and dies. Therefore, consciously or not, we protect ourselves when we are lazy, adapting to any loads that harm our body in such a way as to achieve the results we need with a minimum of effort, sometimes minimal, and sometimes maximum.

Thus, friends, the psychology of laziness, if you don’t go into it too much, is our body’s need to preserve vital energy – vital juices, thanks to which it prolongs its service life. However, like any other instinct, laziness does not always take into account the characteristics of various life situations faced with modern man, therefore, often does not meet his interests, but rather the opposite - deprives him of the opportunity to act competently and generally act when necessary. Instincts are incapable of a high degree accurately determine one or another of our needs in each specific situation, they cannot foresee possible scenarios for the development of events in our lives, they are tuned only to satisfy our current needs, right here and now - in the most primitive way. Therefore, it is so difficult for us to explain to our body that sometimes it is necessary to work hard, for example, it is necessary to study diligently, sparing no time and effort for this, so that later we will not work very much and in a good job that does not exhaust our body. In a word, instincts do not have the ability to think strategically, but our brain, if it is strained, has this ability. Therefore, we know, not everyone, of course, but many know that sometimes it is possible and necessary to work hard to improve the conditions of our lives, so that later, in the future, we work less, and then our body will not wear out too much, and therefore its service life will be longer. In other words, with the help of our mind, we can solve the same problem that laziness solves - much better.

Perhaps you are now thinking that in addition to physical work, there is also mental work that does not wear out a person so much, but at the same time we are still too lazy to do it. Accordingly, the question arises - why? Friends - mental work is the hardest work that a person can do, so, as you can see, not many people do it. Mental work does not wear out our body in the same way that physical work does, but to do it, the brain consumes an enormous amount of energy that we need to live. Therefore, after intense mental work, a person needs a very good rest to restore his strength. Our brain, according to scientists, consumes about 20% of the energy of the body, and even more with its intensive use. And according to my personal feelings, I can tell you that after a very intense mental work - sometimes I can barely crawl to the bed. For example, after writing an article like this one, when I not only write about what I know and what I have tested in practice, in the process of working with people, but also when I try to make my material understandable to most readers, and at the same time is interesting so that they want to read it, I spend a lot of energy and then it takes me a certain time to restore my strength. So mental work is incredibly hard, which is why we are sometimes too lazy to strain our brains, and we act automatically.

So what conclusions can be drawn from all of the above to get rid of laziness in the best way? And the conclusion is one and it is very simple - we need a good incentive to do something. I will even say even more precisely - we need a sense in doing something. You can, of course, give a person a kick in the ass and make him move in this way, that is, make him work under pressure when fear is an incentive for him. But as practice shows, this is not the most The best way motivate a person to take action. People who are forced to work out of fear have very low productivity and a very primitive approach to work. Therefore, humanity at one time abandoned slavery, in its primitive form, because it came to an understanding of how it is possible to induce people to work hard, diligently and creatively without the use of violence. It's all about ambition, greed and interest.

It is ambition, greed and interest, preferably wrapped in an ideological wrapper when it comes to achieving a great goal, about the deep meaning of life, that can induce a person to take active actions, and can even make him a fan of some business when he is to do it, forgetting about everything in the world. You need to awaken passion in your eyes, you must become obsessed with some interesting and important business, success in which will become your strongest desire in life, and then laziness will immediately leave you. You should not forget about fear either - this is the strongest incentive for a person - the last frontier of his interest in life. But fear must take on a special form, in which a person will be afraid not of losing something, but of not getting something, not to know something, not to come to something, so that something not be in time. A primitive kind of fear encourages a person to do nothing, or to do something reluctantly, so as not to simply die, for example, from hunger. But more perfect form fear - encourages a person to act, to get away from his current state and come to a new, more perfect state, in which a person will have much more opportunities to survive and his life will become much better.

In general, friends, in order to get rid of laziness - you need to want something very, very much, want so much that you wake up with a burning interest in some activity that you are ready to do day and night to get the desired result. And you should engage in this activity not because you need it, because “need” is fear, but because you want it, because “want” is interest, this is greed, this is the desire for greatness. So you need to replace your laziness instinct with other instincts - dominance instinct, greed, interest, and even in some situations the sexual instinct. After all, in order to find a partner for sex, you also need to do something, go somewhere, somehow present yourself to another person, interest him in something, and so on. A lazy person is of little interest to anyone, and besides, few people know about him. And yet, in addition to all these instincts, you, as I said above, need to connect your mind to the fight against laziness. That is, you must understand for what near and especially distant goal - you decided to strain, for the sake of what benefits and prospects you need to exploit your body and burn your energy. A meaning must appear in your life, which, either you determine for yourself, or it will be done by someone else who can have a very strong impact on you, with your consent. You need to make a choice - for what to live and something to do in your life. I am talking about choice because I am absolutely convinced that a person chooses his own destiny and decides for what and why he will live. Another thing is that deciding what exactly you will live for is not so easy. Therefore, getting rid of laziness with the help of a strong desire - to leave something and come to something - is not so easy. You can catch fire from something, from some idea, but very quickly burn out, again plunging into that nonsense from which you got out for a while, thanks to the impact of this idea on you. And then again laziness will overcome you, and sometimes along with it sadness, boredom, despondency. It is no coincidence that many people are busy searching for the meaning of life - they want to know what the Universe needs from them, and what they themselves need from themselves. After all, on the one hand, we want to know - why should we strain, why should we spend our energy, and on the other hand, there is another question - why save energy, why be careful, why be lazy?

In the life of every reasonable person there must be a meaning and a person must be aware of this meaning, otherwise he will not be interested in living. And if there is no meaning in a person’s life, if he lives only for the sake of maintaining life, then it is useless to expect activity from him, because lower form laziness, urging him to do nothing at all, will completely take possession of him. Indeed, for a simple life - for a vegetable existence, much is not needed. In this sense, laziness is very practical - it protects a person from everything superfluous, which may require additional expenditure of energy from him, including success, which requires a lot of energy to achieve. Therefore, the search for the meaning of life, or rather, the inventing of this meaning by a person for himself, is a very serious and responsible work. Perhaps you will find a person in your life who will infect you with some great idea, for the implementation of which you will begin to actively strive, filling your life with meaning. Or maybe you will come up with such an idea yourself. The main thing is that you always want something, something that you need to go to all your life. Greed, in this case, will make your life unsatisfied, and no matter what you already have, you will still want more, you will strive for more, which means you will live, which means you will be active, which means laziness will disappear from your life.

And here's another thing that friends, any of your desires, any ideas, goals, guidelines - should meet precisely your interests, and not the interests of someone else who convinces you of the correctness of one and the incorrectness of the other. A person can work well and hard if, firstly, he works for himself and understands this, and secondly, if he understands the meaning of his work. That is, he must have a goal in life, preferably going beyond his primitive needs, but necessarily meeting his interests. After all, in order to get rid of laziness, you need to prove to your body that you are going to do something for its sake, that is, for yourself, and not for someone else. And the greatness of your goal will ignite the fire of passion in your eyes, and then no one and nothing will stop you. The greater the work a person does, in which he sees for himself a certain interest and great meaning, the more strength he puts into it. Well, do not forget about the specifics when setting a goal - if you want something, then try to understand what exactly and why you want. No need to say that you want to become a rich and successful person, or that you want to make the world a better place - these are all common phrases. Tell me clearly - what do you need to start doing right here and now and why? Say it to yourself - put this question before you in order to understand your own desire.

That, in fact, is all you need to get rid of laziness. The logic is very simple - we defeat one instinct with the help of other instincts, or rather, we replace the work of one instinct with the work of other instincts. After all, it is instincts that control our behavior, and our brain is engaged in their maintenance. And in this case, our brain must choose such instincts that it will serve in the first place and in more, and these instincts will overshadow with their activity all other instincts, and in particular the instinct of laziness. When you light up with a great idea, for which you can not only spend your energy, wearing out your body, but also give your life, then laziness will recede, it will simply be suppressed by your determination and obsession. Now you just have to decide what you really want, or, better to say, what you may want in order to use all the resources of your body in order to achieve this something. Think - what can arouse a very strong interest in you, because of which you will forget not only about laziness, but also about everything in the world?

Come up with some kind of mission that you need to complete in this life - infect yourself with a great idea that gives you goosebumps to make your life more interesting, so that you yourself become a very active person, ready to move mountains to achieve your goals. Usually this approach to life allows you to make it more meaningful. If you need help with this, please get in touch. Together we will choose a goal in life for you and decide how best to achieve it. The main thing - do not hesitate, life burns out very quickly - there is no time to doubt, hesitate, be lazy, wait. Act while you have the opportunity, while you are alive. Choose your goal in life. When the meaning of your life becomes the achievement of some great goal, or several goals, I assure you, you will easily get rid of laziness - it will leave you very quickly.