What should not be done so as not to lose your job? Consider the main mistakes of subordinates, simulating situations on the part of superiors and employees. So what are 7 mistakes that can cost you work?
Met by clothes
You:“I have always believed that it is not necessary to dress beautifully for work, the main thing is a responsible attitude to one's duties. Therefore, I put on what came to my arm in the morning.
Boss:“I doubt that a man who treats his own with such carelessness appearance, can responsibly perform their duties, in the end, it's just indecent - to come to work in sneakers and jeans!
Appearance is an important part of your career. Follow the dress code, do not allow negligence and sloppiness.
But here, the main thing is not to overdo it. Set aside overly expensive clothes and jewelry for a corporate party, thus you will not put your colleagues and boss, who cannot afford to dress in top things, in an awkward position.
The Importance of Subordination
You:“My boss has always liked me as a person, and I planned to become friends with her. She recently called me into her office to help her with her computer. I decided that it was time to get close to her and told her about the quarrel with my husband. For some reason, she did everything so that I quickly left her office.
Boss:“I recently asked a subordinate for help with a computer, and she told me a story so personal that I had to blush. But we have only business relations with her! She was extremely ruthless."
An important rule of a good worker is the inadmissibility of familiarity and the observance of subordination. Leave personal stories for colleagues.
We do not fall into our own networks
Boss:“I have always been unpleasant girls who put their “beauties” on public display. And, I was upset when I saw too candid photos of my employee on her page, I'm disappointed in her.
Do not forget that the authorities may try to find your profiles on the Internet, therefore, it is better to make them available only to a certain circle of people.
Spoon is good for dinner
You:“I allow myself to often run away from our boss and do not consider such actions bad. I manage to complete my work in less time than the one allotted for it. So, why not leave earlier or come later, I'm doing the job anyway!"
Boss:“I think one of my subordinates will have to say goodbye urgently. I started to detect his disappearances from work a long time ago, but I treated them loyally. Recently, I needed to urgently gather all the employees in the morning, as important personalities arrived. Woe-subordinate had to wait half an hour. In addition to being late, he ruined the image of the company.”
go to work time or being late without warning the manager is a big mistake, very often punishable by dismissal.
Even if you are one of the best employees, be punctual and do not abuse the trust of your superiors.
own goal
You:“I left my previous job with a real scandal. Having got a new job, I told about the scandalous dismissal with pleasure and in colors. I thought that such a story would arouse sympathy towards me, but after this story, everyone started looking at me badly.
Boss:“I hired a girl and at first I was pleased with her. But, the other day I heard her story about the reason for dismissal from her previous job, she poured a huge amount of dirt on this organization. And, she did not hesitate to insult the former boss, touching on very personal details. It's disgusting"!
At a new job, you need to watch what you say: do not criticize the previous management and place of work. Trying to decorate yourself in this way, you can get the opposite effect.
I don't want and I won't
You:“I am a straightforward person, and if I don’t like something in my work, I don’t hesitate to tell my superiors about it. Especially if it asks me to spend extra time or do something I'm not paid to do. Therefore, if I do not want to work, then I say this directly.
Boss:“I think that the dismissal of one of my subordinates is inevitable. Firstly, he refuses to do everything that I do not pay him. I understand that work is work, but you need to try to remain human and help! And secondly, he ignores even important assignments, for which he just gets the money, and does not hesitate to refuse in a rude manner, although I am the boss here!
Refusing to work in a categorical form: “I can’t”, “I won’t”, “I don’t want to” is a bad idea. If something does not suit you, you need to explain it delicately.
And, if you do not like your work, it is better to refuse it altogether, so as not to torment others and yourself.
Delu - time
You:“My job is monotonous and I get paid for it, so I often allow myself a break for a cup of coffee and a personal conversation with a colleague. The boss doesn’t tell me anything, and I consider my behavior to be normal.”
Boss:“Recently, I went out into the corridor and saw a line of indignant customers. It turned out that the employee was absent from her workplace, and was chatting nicely with a colleague in the next office. I had to remind her that for the rest there is a technical break established by the regulations. Next time I will deprive the award!
The action that will entail dismissal can be considered shirking from work. At work, you should try to do only relevant things.
Everything personal should be postponed until the break, even if no one makes comments to you.
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- The woman is the boss. A book on how to manage a business. This book includes the works of famous psychologists, leaders of practical seminars. Their advice will help women who are energetically mastering a man's business - managing enterprises, effectively ...
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Gone are the days when women only stood at the stove, nursed children and met earners from work. Today, no one can be surprised by a woman boss. Moreover, the effectiveness of the activities of the authorities does not depend at all on gender, but on personal leadership qualities, education and experience. But there are, of course, features in the work of a female chef.
Woman boss - lassification of psychological types
Leader - "Man in a Skirt"
Such a boss is stingy with emotions. She more than compensates for her lack of emotionality with authoritarianism in dealing with subordinates and a rigid attitude towards people and affairs. Such a business woman will never forget her "hedgehog gloves" at home, and she does not smell of democracy at work - the exchange of opinions and the free expression of her thoughts are excluded by default. As a rule, employees of a fine mental organization run away from such a team. Therefore, frank toadying, quarrelsomeness and intrigue reign in him.
What should be remembered?
- Learn to be silent and control yourself.
- Do not let the conversation go from dialogue to other planes.
- Use the gift of persuasion.
Boss - "Mommy"
The boss from this category is the exact opposite of the previous one. No action is complete without emotion. The main weapon is charm. Employees are almost her children, and friendship and only friendship should reign in the team. Read more. Kindness and emotionality do not contribute to order in the team - there is always chaos due to the super-liberal nature of the "mom".
What should be remembered?
- With your problems and suggestions, contact only directly to the boss (not to colleagues).
- Omit technical details in your "presentation" - explain your ideas at the level of emotional painting. If the boss is inspired by your heartfelt speech, the technical details will be decided by themselves.
- The reprimands of such a boss usually represent understandable female insults. And they should be responded to accordingly. That is, turning not to the mind, but to the feelings.
Boss - "Enthusiast"
This situational type of leader is a workaholic woman who lives for success and victory. She is always the first to arrive and the last to leave. There is paper chaos on her desk. In her memory - often too. Due to the abundance of information, she often forgets - about the specific duties of subordinates, the deadlines for completing tasks, etc. Compared to the previous options, this one is not so bad. In any case, the forgetfulness of the authorities sometimes provides an additional day off, and you will not have any special problems at work.
Relations with superiors play important role in the scenario of career growth and business advancement. turns out to be a difficult psychological test for many people. When the leader does not control himself, the problem is gaining momentum. Not everyone can tolerate rudeness, but a decent response requires strength. What do you do if your boss is being defiant? How to deal with rudeness and tyranny? When is it better to remain silent and what actions are suitable for emergency situations? Questions will be answered applied psychology business communication.
What are the bosses?
Leading people is a complex art that requires a set of certain qualities from a person: self-control, flexibility, ambition, sociability, organization ... the list goes on forever. When work in a team does not stick, it is worth thinking about the competence of the boss.
Destructive leaders are the destroyers of the office world and order. You can’t cook porridge with them, and you can’t solve things. But problems are always in abundance.
- Creepy- This is a god of the middle order. He is a small boss on errands of a big boss. Today he is pleased with your work, and tomorrow he gives you a dressing, having received criticism from higher management.
- Dictator- will not let you say a word against. Does not accept criticism, advice, does not hear wishes. He thinks he knows everything better than you. And even if you are a first-class architect, and he does not distinguish between a load-bearing wall and a non-bearing wall, his authoritarian wishes are undeniable.
- slob- his element is lack of assembly, disorganization. He forgets about important meetings, deadlines, assignments, does not control the progress of work, breaking down on his subordinates for his mistakes.
- Sadist- a tyrant who knows all the weaknesses of his subordinates. He loves to tease. The sadist is firmly attached to the victim, skillfully steps on the sore calluses, humiliating the person. The tyrant experiences sadistic love for his subordinates. He cultivates in the team a sense of dependence and slavish obedience, instilling a sense of fear in his subordinates.
- Actor- plays competent specialist. His only goal is to maintain the image, even by humiliating subordinates.
- Coward- Fear of competition. He is suspicious and seeks to avert the slightest danger. Humiliating subordinates, he kills the spirit of rivalry in the team.
- Father-mentor, mother-director – most time, leaders of the paternal type professionally cope with their duties. Manifestations of destructive behavior appear unexpectedly, but soon pass without bringing obvious destructive consequences.
Your response to your boss depends on the causes and forms of inappropriate behavior.
Inappropriate Leader Behavior:
- increased intonation, rough speech,
- ridicule and belittle the dignity of subordinates,
- familiar behavior,
- flirting, obscene allusions,
- passive-pejorative gestures (humiliation in a veiled form: sarcastic remarks, ambiguous smiles, hints).
These are signs of unprofessionalism. In Russia, the literacy of the managerial level is poorly developed.
Positions often go to the strongest, but not the most worthy. Assess your strengths and capabilities before joining the fight.
The slightest mistake will be your defeat and worsen the situation at work.
How to put in place a presumptuous leader?
- calmness. Don't get emotional. In an excited state, you are easier to manipulate. Start preparing for the conversation early. Take a couple of minutes, close your eyes. Breathe smoothly: inhale deeply and exhale slowly. Repeat several times. Don't beat yourself up before talking. Stay calm, even, try not to show emotions. Calmness will moderate the ardor of the boss.
- Politeness. When the leader is rude, ask him to justify the reasons for the behavior. Speak in a cold, reserved tone, politely. Show that you are educated. Uncultured behavior is a sign of low intellectual development. You are above rudeness. In business ethics there is no place for unprofessional communication. Politeness and restraint are a sign of courage. Controlling emotions means conquering fears. Having mastered yourself, you become an uninteresting toy for the boss of a sadist or actor.
- Face to face conversation. Public attacks on superiors are fraught with unpleasant consequences. To avoid them, choose a place and time to talk with the boss in private. Try to find out what he doesn't like about your job. Grab a piece of paper and a pen and write it down. If any of the above is not true, ask again. By forcing the boss to repeat the lie, you focus attention not on the illegality and incorrectness of his actions, awakening his conscience.
If the boss is a tyrant, in a personal conversation you can make an attempt to hurt his conceit. In this case, there are 2 nuances:
- Self-doubt and natural timidity will prevent you from winning the clash. Exodus: tyranny will become tougher.
- You risk going overboard. Relations with the boss will deteriorate completely, and your workplace will be in question.
During the conversation, do not let's wipe our feet on ourselves, show the inner core and confidence. Do not give in to provocations. If during a conversation the boss attacks you and engages in a skirmish, imagine yourself under the protection of a glass dome. You are inside and the boss is outside. His rough and aggressive lunges bounce off the glass surface without touching you. While you fantasize, the boss will cool off. Start talking when the boss has let off steam and finished his tirade. Do not interrupt, do not try to shout down the boss, as you will aggravate the situation.
- Ignoring. Suitable for interacting with bosses who show aggression inconsistently: creepy, slob, mother director. In their case, negative attacks have a specific reason. Bosses are people too and they have their weaknesses. A sense of increased responsibility, almost paternal love for the team, makes the father-boss go beyond business communication. The slob is aggressive in the event of major setbacks. Creepy boss behaves inappropriately after a shake-up from upper management. It is easier to survive such attacks, immersed in work, trying not to pay attention to the raging management.
- non-verbal tricks. With leaders-dictators, methods of verbal influence are powerless. You can convey your dissatisfaction to an authoritarian leader with the help of gestures, facial expressions, gaze, and intonation. This method is suitable for employees, especially those who value their workplace. By influencing the subconscious, you will avoid direct confrontation and bypass conflict situations side.
Indirect methods of influencing the boss or boss
A person receives about 80% of information in a non-verbal way! If you build a model of behavior correctly, the information will be firmly entrenched in the boss at a subconscious level.
- Forget about smiling. Don't try to smooth things over by smiling at your boss at an awkward moment.
Be serious. Women in communication with men on a subconscious level use a smile to achieve sympathy. In a business relationship, this technique may not work.
Smiling awkwardly, you show gentleness and provoke an attack, especially a sadist, dictator and actor. Emotionless facial expression cools the boss's ardor.
- Follow your gaze. Look into the eyes of your boss. If you find it difficult to maintain eye contact, keep your gaze at the level of the nose. When you lower your eyes, you recognize the strength of the interlocutor. On a subconscious level, he feels that you have given up and goes on the offensive.
- Control gestures. Lowering of the head, constant nodding, nervous gestures, defensive postures and movements, and weakness. Watch your behavior:
- Don't lean back in communication with the boss;
- Don't look for extra support in the form of a table or chair when standing in front of the boss;
- Don't fence yourself off from him with crossed arms and legs;
- Stop blowing away non-existent dust particles and remove fictitious specks from clothes;
- Take your hands off your face and lift up your eyes;
- Express consent with a restrained single nod;
- Formulate phrases accurately and answer questions.
- Do not hesitate, trying to avoid the answer. Hiding behind vague phrases, you confess insecurity and weakness.
- Work on your clothes. Business style in clothes is a symbol of distance. A formal dress code exposes a subconscious frame of communication in the head of the boss. It is not for nothing that in large companies employees are required to comply with mandatory requirements for appearance, the main of which is business attire.
- Do not pay attention to jokes and provocations. The lack of the expected response will disrupt the boss's plans. Move on to discussing work issues without noticing sarcasm and inappropriate jokes. This technique does not work with tyrant leaders. Silence for them is a sign of weakness and fear, which acts on sadists like a red rag on a bull.
Coping with habitual non-verbal reactions is difficult, but necessary if you want to show your boss his place.
When choosing a method of response, be guided by your own strengths and the character of the boss. The more you take into account individual factors, the more effective your behavior will be.
What can not be done?
- Silently endure public insults. So you risk losing the respect of not only your boss, but also your colleagues.
- Answer rudely. Rudeness breeds new aggression. Do not stoop to the level of a boor, respect your dignity.
- Criticize the boss. No boss likes criticism. If your boss is a dictator, you risk deepening the conflict. Judging the boss in a fit of anger, you provoke a negative release on you. A single aggressive attack will turn into a persistent dislike on the part of the leader.
- Humbly ask for forgiveness and take the blame. So you humiliate your own dignity and untie the hands of a tyrant. You will be held responsible for all incidents in the office. Such behavior is especially dangerous with a sadist and a slob. If respect in the team does not play a big role for you, or the dialogue with the boss takes place in private, you can take the blame for communicating with a dictator or a coward. Aggressive attacks will stop.
Forewarned is forearmed!
Conflicts with superiors are easier to prevent than to deal with their consequences.
- Strive for a balance of interests. often arise from misunderstanding. The boss does not seek to explain his position and desires to subordinates, and employees tolerate and silently carry out the vague tasks of the leader. Bottom line: dissatisfaction on both sides. Look for benefits for yourself and for your superiors. Find the optimal balance of interests.
- Understand the boss. Take a closer look at the boss. Having studied his habits, requirements, character traits, you can avoid controversial situations and conflicts. Knowing the hidden causes of inappropriate behavior gives you a secret weapon in the fight against boss misconduct.
- Set up a dialogue. People open up in communication. Through dialogue, it is possible to convey to a person not only verbal information, but also an internal state. Surely you have seen employees who are able to calm the father-boss in anger or influence the leader - slovenly. It's all about the right approach to communication, and every boss has weaknesses.
- Confidence from day one. When you get a new job, . Sadists and actors avoid clashes with such people. Excessive confidence can unnerve the boss - a coward or a dictator. It depends on the leader how much you can raise the bar of your fearlessness.
You can find a balance of relationships with any boss. Be careful and don't be afraid of guidance.
Watch the behavior of your boss, otherwise someone's career may be in jeopardy.
Is your boss complimenting you more often? Texting on the weekend? Laughs at all your jokes, even the most unfortunate ones? If yes, then maybe he is not indifferent to you.
Sometimes it’s not clear whether the person is really into you or just trying to be friendly, so it’s best to be careful in such a sensitive situation. Otherwise, you risk getting into an awkward position, and in the worst case, someone's career will be in jeopardy. So, here are 17 signs of a boss in love.
1. An inner voice whispers
Usually people tend to brush aside suspicions about leadership, but sometimes feelings are worth trusting.
Intuition is not nonsense. This is the voice of our subconscious. This is an unconscious analysis of many factors, which results in emotions or physical sensations - in this case, discomfort and irritation. And, if you are unhappy or angry about this situation, you are right.
2. Flirt
Before drawing any conclusions, take a close look at how the boss communicates with other colleagues. Perhaps he behaves this way with everyone - he just likes to please others. And, even if your boss flirts with you from time to time, if he communicates with other colleagues in the same way, this may be harmless flirting.
It is also worth analyzing your own actions. Maybe he flirts with you because you flirt with him? Trying to understand what intentions are behind other people's actions, you should be very careful.
But, if it becomes clear that he is only flirting with you, and that this is not happening in response to your behavior, this is a serious sign.
3. Meetings in private or in the evenings
If you are occasionally asked to stay after the end of the day to finish something, and there is an understandable reason for this in the form of a joint project, this can be quite harmless.
But, if you feel like you're being singled out and that the meetings are regularly scheduled for the evening (or the number of meetings is obviously excessive), your boss may be trying to go beyond professional boundaries.
It is worth bearing in mind that if you, in spite of your own discomfort, go forward, the situation will only get worse.
4. Calls or SMS without a specific reason
Most executives are overwhelmed with work, so if a person takes the time to call you and chat, then it looks like you occupy his thoughts a little more than it should be.
5. Playful or Sensual Body Language
Pay attention to body language and gaze. If he looks at you a lot or tries to maintain eye contact for longer than necessary, this could be one of the signs.
6. Indulgences
Perhaps, of course, this is just a sign of respect and trust, but if you begin to feel like a favorite - for example, you are offered opportunities that you honestly did not deserve - perhaps he likes you.
7. Trust
Does your boss sometimes share work or personal information with you that he doesn't share with anyone else in the company?
It is possible that you are simply trusted as a person and specialist. But it is possible that this is just a way to deepen the relationship.
8. Exaggerated promises
If your boss is romantically interested in you, he may promise you some exaggerated role in the company.
If the leader is ready to cheer and support everyone, this is one thing. But, if the prospects begin to seem suspiciously rosy, it is worth paying attention to other signs and understanding the motivation of the authorities.
9. Spending time outside of work
Maybe nothing is behind an invitation to coffee after work, but in combination with other signs, this is an alarming signal.
10. Sudden change of image
11. Your opinion is valued above others.
12. Compliments that are not related to work
If you're getting compliments all the time, and if they're not work related or over the top, there's obviously something to it.
Compliments on your appearance, dressing ability, or excellent personal qualities can be especially telling. If he says something like: "That's because your chosen one will be lucky," this is hardly a purely working relationship.
If this type of comment makes you feel uncomfortable, it's best to talk to Human Resources right away.
13. Gifts
They can be a form of flirting.
Humor is essential in the workplace, but there are some limits, and perhaps the boss jokes mostly with you - this should be alarming.
A bullying boss who teases you and makes unwanted advances is a serious matter, and it may be worthwhile to take drastic steps immediately to stop such behavior.
17. Blush in your presence
Does his face change the moment you enter the room? Is he blushing, or is there sweat on his forehead? Perhaps this is a sign of physical attraction.
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