The child does not study well. Prayer when studying is difficult

Question:

Good afternoon! I can’t do physics at all, I live in Belarus and we have a 10 point system here and in physics I have almost only two out of 10 points, I don’t know what to do, can I finally put an end to my studies? Nothing comes out not only in physics but also in many other subjects ...

Answers the question: Archpriest Dimitri Shushpanov

Priest's response:

Dear Nikita! It's too early to put an end to your studies, you need to try to change something.

First, if you are a believer, turn to God with a prayer: ask Him to help you. But you need to pray not once or twice, but take it upon yourself to pray before each lesson at school (you can not publicly, to yourself), and sitting down to do homework at home, reading at first: "O Heavenly King", and at the end: "It is worthy to eat." You can ask God in your own words.

Secondly, the cause of failure is weakness of the will, because study requires regular exertion of intellectual and physical strength. And therefore, you need to force yourself to do this: do not miss classes at school, study at home. Again, accompanying all these efforts with a prayer to God for the reinforcement of your mental and bodily strength. In addition to prayer, you need to resort to the shrine and the Sacraments of the Church: drink holy water on an empty stomach every morning and eat a particle of prosphora, as well as regularly (at least once a month) confess and take communion in the temple. Through all this, the Lord will send you His grace, sanctification and help.

And thirdly, you need to try to take extra classes in those subjects where your lag is most obvious. I think that this is quite feasible. Help you Lord!

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My 17 year old daughter has Endogenous Personality Disorder. At the age of 16, her daughter had her first episode of psychosis. At the same time, she still managed to pass the GIA and go to college. But I didn’t go to study - they took academic leave. The acute form was removed in a day hospital. Now (for 7 months) she has been taking a neuroleptic (rispolept 3.5 mg/day). Today, her condition cannot be called bad (compared to what it was!). The problems are: obsessive thoughts, increased fatigue and lethargy (I believe that because of the drugs, because with increasing dose this lethargy always increased).
So, among other things, I am very worried about the questions: should my daughter go to the college she entered, or maybe go to study in another place easier, or sit at home for another year? Let me explain what causes these questions.
The fact is that even before psychosis, studying at school was hard work for my daughter! In fact, the whole family studied. She herself could hardly do her homework. It was difficult for her to understand the task, comprehend what she read, generalize, draw logical conclusions, highlight the main thing - additional explanations, “chewing” the meaning were always required. Due to the fact that the daughter was "tight" in thinking, it took almost all the time to complete the lessons (at least in the minimum volume): she sat at school every day until late, on weekends. I went to school as if I was being tortured, I was terribly afraid that they would be called to the blackboard. As we approached the exams, the GIA, the tension grew, especially against the backdrop of outright intimidation on the part of teachers. It seems to me that the culmination of all this was psychosis. So, I am torn by painful doubts about the "golden mean". On the one hand, I understand that daughters should not stay at home, this does not contribute to recovery and socialization. On the other hand, I'm afraid of re-psychosis, which can again provoke an exorbitant study load! Here, another significant point is that, in addition to her own lethargy, there was also a significant lethargy from the use of the medicine! And drink it for a long time. In this regard, I have no idea how you can study in such a state! I was advised evening school, they say, there the requirements are low due to the corresponding level of students. But it's also scary! Due to her nature and illness (I don’t understand where one ends and another begins!) my daughter is a very vulnerable creature, always polite, does not accept rudeness and rudeness. At the same time, she does not have friends who are so necessary for social adaptation! So can I really push her into such an “intelligent” circle of friends! My mother worked as a teacher in an evening school for several years, so I know everything firsthand! I can not imagine my daughter among such a contingent! It definitely won't do her any good. So what to do? How to do the right thing? How not to bend the stick in one direction or another? I understand that I am asking difficult questions. But suddenly an experienced specialist to some extent will clarify this situation for me, help with advice. Our psychiatrist is still silent. Thanks in advance for any advice. Natalia

Child psychologist Elena Golovina answered the questions of "Evening Tram" about how to prepare parents for primary school their children, how to seat a hyperactive child at a desk and help him establish contact with peers.

Elena Evgenievna, September 1 is not far off, hundreds of children will go to first grade after kindergarten. How to set up your child for school?

This is a long process, no wonder kindergarten it lasts a whole year while children visit preparatory group. It is good if the child attended classes in preparation for school in that educational institution where he will study in the future. It is important that by school the child learns that studying is his duty, he knows the school rules, imagines how the lessons go, what is the role of the teacher, possessed the basic skills and abilities.

- If a child is hyperactive, restless, what should parents and teachers do?

It is worth separating hyperactivity as a syndrome that is diagnosed by doctors, and simply excessive activity of the child. For children with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, complex medical, psychological and pedagogical correction is necessary. At the level of advice: it is important to put an active child at the first desks, strictly observe the daily routine, you should not overload the child with physical activity, because, contrary to popular belief, that he "runs in and runs out of steam", he, on the contrary, is disinhibited and cannot calm down himself. And remember that active children need the help of adults, because their self-regulation is usually poorly developed, you need to help them get organized, start and finish things, help with homework.

- How to motivate a child so that he begins to show interest in classes?

There is no universal answer. For some children, motivation is gifts and rewards, for some, the praise of their parents is important, for others, good grades. The example of parents is important here. If a child sees that parents are happy with their work, inquisitive, active, then study will be interesting for him.

How important is it to do homework with a child at home? Can an extension or tutors (nanny) replace homework with parents?

The challenge for parents and educators initial stage learning - to teach the child to learn. Therefore, it is good if parents help the child develop an algorithm for doing homework, they will help solve the difficulties encountered. Here it is good to act according to the principle "first together, and then on your own." If a child does tasks with a tutor or in an after-school, then the main thing is that he does not lose contact with his parents if there is no joint learning activities, then you can chat together, walk, etc.

What can you say about the pressure of parents who, with shouts and a belt, are trying to “drive” knowledge into their children?

If it would bring results ... More often, parents use such methods from their own impotence. Then it is better to transfer the tasks of teaching to teachers, tutors.

If a child has a hard time studying, he doesn’t remember well, he can’t concentrate, what could be the reason and what should parents do?

Among possible causes there may be neurological, associated with the characteristics of the development of the child, and psychological, associated with the peculiarities of the course of psychological processes (memory, thinking, attention, etc.), and pedagogical, when the child does not have the necessary learning skills and abilities. It is better to contact specialists to determine the causes and solutions to problems.

- And if the child does not develop relationships with classmates and he refuses to go to school?

This is a difficult question in a particular situation, you need to understand: to find out what the child feels, perhaps he is scared or angry. Communicate with the teacher, school psychologist and together help the child adapt in the classroom.

I know a case when a girl persuaded her parents to transfer her to another school because of a conflict in the class, and then refused to go to her, demanding to return her to her former school ... In what cases is it worth going on about the child?

The opinion of the child is certainly important. But school apart from teaching school subjects also a "rehearsal" of adult life, the opportunity to learn how to resolve conflicts, enter into relationships, make decisions. The question of changing schools is often raised when it comes to bullying, which seriously traumatizes the child. In other cases, perhaps he should be helped to sort out the conflict, think about possible ways out of it, and sometimes just support it.

Most detailed description: a prayer when studying is difficult - for our readers and subscribers.

Studying is the most important occupation of schoolchildren and students. Therefore, every year on September 1, on the holiday of the Day of Knowledge - the beginning school year, in all Orthodox churches a prayer service is performed with the invocation of God's blessing.

In addition to the prayer service, the Church performs a short prayer for the gift to the disciples of the spirit of wisdom and reason, for the children to understand the teachings of the Word of God.

How to order a prayer service? To what saints is prayer offered for students?

Sergius of Radonezh

The saint helps to study with dignity, get good grades, and enter a university after graduation.

Bartholomew, that was the name of the future monk, the teaching was hard, even when reading Holy Scripture he made many mistakes. Understanding the difficulties, the boy wholeheartedly asked God to help him in his studies. And one day an angel in the form of a monk appeared before him, promising the boy to soon become the most educated child in the environment.

Oh, sacred head, reverend and God-bearing Father Sergius, with your prayer, and faith and love, even to God, and with purity of heart, still on earth in the monastery of the Most Holy Trinity, arranging your soul, and angelic communion and the Most Holy Theotokos visit, and the gift miraculous grace received, after your departure from earthly things, especially to God, you draw near and partake of heavenly forces, but you do not depart from us in the spirit of your love, and your honest relics, like a vessel of grace full and overflowing, leaving us! pray to save His servants, the grace of His believers in you and flowing to You with love. Ask us from our Greatly Gifted God for every gift that is beneficial to everyone and everyone: the faith is immaculate, the affirmation of our cities, the peace of the world, deliverance from gladness and destruction, preservation from the invasion of foreigners, consolation to the grieving, healing to the sick, resurrection to the fallen, return to those who err on the path of truth and salvation, I strive strengthening, doing good in good deeds, prosperity and blessing, upbringing as a baby, guidance to young people, ignorant admonition, orphans and widows intercession, departing from this temporary life to eternal good preparation and parting words, who have departed a blessed repose, and grant all of us with your prayers that help you on the day Of the Last Judgment, part of the Shuya will be delivered, but the gums of the country will be partakers of life and hear the blessed voice of the Lord Christ: “Come, bless my Father, inherit the Kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world.” Amen.

Parental prayer and personal prayers of students

Lord God and our Creator, in His image we, the people, who adorned, Your chosen ones, taught Your law, so that those who listen to him marvel, revealed the secrets of wisdom to children, gave Solomon and all those who seek it - open the hearts, minds and lips of Your servants (names) in order to comprehend the power of Your law and successfully learn the useful doctrine taught by it, for the glory of Your Most Holy Name, for the benefit and organization of Your Holy Church and the understanding of Your good and perfect will.

Deliver them from all the wiles of the enemy, keep them in the faith of Christ and purity throughout their life, may they be strong in mind and in the fulfillment of Your commandments.

And so the learned will glorify the Most Holy your name and they will be heirs of Your Kingdom, for You are God, strong in mercy and good in strength, and all glory, honor and worship is due to You, to the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, always, now and ever and forever and ever. Amen.

Good Lord, send down to us the grace of Your Holy Spirit, bestowing and strengthening our spiritual strength, so that, attentively taught to us, we may grow up to You, our Creator, to the glory, our parent for consolation, the Church and the fatherland for the benefit.

Icon of the Mother of God "The Key of Understanding"

Before the icon they pray for the success of the youths, with their mental retardation.

Wisdom Mentor and sense to the Giver, the unwise Instructor and the poor Intercessor, Mother of Christ our God, affirm, enlighten my heart, Mistress, and add reason to Christ praying earnestly. You give me the word that gave birth to the Father's Word, have the boldness to ask Your Son for us. Amen.

Now diligently to the Theotokos, we are sinful and humble, and we fall down, calling in repentance from the depths of our souls: Lady, help us, having mercy on us: we are perishing, we are perishing from many sins, do not turn away Your servants of vain, You and the only hope of the imam.

Prayer to the Prophet Nahum

One of the prophets who lived in the 7th century BC.

Oh, praiseworthy and wonderful prophet of God Naum! Hear us, sinners and indecent ones, at this hour standing before your holy icon and diligently resorting to your intercession. Pray for us the Lover of God, may he give us the spirit of repentance and contrition for our sins, and with His omnipotent grace, may he help us to leave the path of wickedness, be in time in every good deed, and strengthen us in the struggle with our passions and lusts; may it plant in our hearts the spirit of humility and meekness, the spirit of brotherly love and gentleness, the spirit of patience and chastity, the spirit of zeal for the glory of God and the salvation of others. Abolish with your prayers, prophet, the evil customs of the world, moreover, the pernicious and corrupting spirit of this age, infecting the Christian race with disrespect for the Divine Orthodox Faith, for the statutes of the holy Church and the commandments of the Lord, disrespect for parents and those in power, and overthrowing people into the abyss of wickedness , corruption and destruction. Turn away from us, wonderful prophet, by your intercession the righteous wrath of God, and deliver all the cities and towns of our kingdom from lack of rain and famine, from terrible storms and earthquakes, from deadly ulcers and diseases, from the invasion of enemies and internecine strife. Strengthen Orthodox people with your prayers, help them in all good deeds and undertakings to establish peace and truth in their state. Help the All-Russian Christ-loving army in the battle with our enemies. Ask, prophet of God, from the Lord our shepherd, holy zeal for God, heartfelt care for the salvation of the flock, wisdom in teaching and management, piety and strength in temptations, ask judges for impartiality and selflessness, righteousness and compassion for the offended, for all those in charge, care for subordinates, mercy and justice, but obedience and obedience to the subordinates and diligent performance of their duties; yes, having lived in peace and piety in this world, let us be vouchsafed to partake of eternal blessings in the Kingdom of the Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, He is worthy of honor and worship, with His Beginningless Father and the Most Holy Spirit, forever and ever. Amen.

Prayer to Righteous John of Kronstadt

Little John had a hard time studying and he fervently prayed to God for the grant of help. Once a miracle happened and his mental talent was revealed, after which the boy successfully understood and accepted knowledge, memorized, read and wrote.

O great saint of Christ, holy righteous Father John of Kronstadt, wonderful shepherd, quick helper and merciful intercessor! Giving praise to the Triune God, you prayerfully cried out: Your name is love: do not reject me, the erring one. Your name is Strength: strengthen me, exhausted and falling. Your name is Light: enlighten my soul, darkened by worldly passions. Your name is Peace: pacify my restless soul. Now, grateful for your intercession, the All-Russian flock prays to you: Christ-named and righteous servant of God! With your love, illumine us, sinners and the weak, make us worthy to bear fruits of repentance and partake of the Mysteries of Christ without condemnation. Strengthen your faith in us by your strength, support us in prayer, heal illnesses and diseases, deliver us from misfortunes, enemies, visible and invisible. With the light of the face of your servants and primates of the Altar of Christ, move on the holy feats of pastoral work, grant upbringing as a baby, instruct youth, support old age, shrines of temples and holy cloisters illuminate! Die, miracle worker and seer of the most wonderful, the peoples of our country, by the grace and gift of the Holy Spirit, deliver from internecine strife, squandered gather, deceived convert and unite the Holy Cathedral and the Apostolic Church. By your mercy, keep marriages in peace and unanimity, grant prosperity and blessings to those who are monks in good deeds, give cowardly comforts, suffer from unclean spirits of freedom, have mercy on those in need and circumstances and guide us on the path of salvation. Living in Christ, our Father John, lead us to the Non-Evening Light of eternal life, may we be with you eternal bliss, praising and exalting God forever and ever. Amen.

Prayer to the Martyr Neophyte

The miracle worker Neophyte is prayed for the enlightenment of the mind.

Thy martyr, O Lord, Neophyte in his suffering received an incorruptible crown from Thee, our God; Save our souls with prayers. Holy God and rest in the saints, with a three-holy voice in heaven from an Angel sung, on earth from a man in His saints praised: giving by Your Holy Spirit grace to anyone according to the measure of the gift of Christ, and then setting up Your Church of the holy ov Apostles, ov prophets, ov evangelizers ovy shepherds and teachers, their own word of preaching. To You Himself acting all in all, many have been made holy in every kind and kind, pleasing You with various virtues, and to You we have left the image of our good deeds, in the joy of the past, prepare, in it the temptations of the past themselves, and to help us who are attacked . Remembering all these saints and praising their charitable life, I praise You Samago, who acted in them, I praise, and one of Your blessings of believing, I diligently pray to Thee, Holy of Holies, give me a sinner to follow their teaching, more than Thy omnipotent grace, heavenly with them be worthy of glory, praising your most holy name, the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit forever. Amen.

Cyril and Methodius, the first teachers of Slovenia

Warrior Methodius, knowing the vanity of life, went to the monks and diligently fulfilled monastic vows. His brother Konstantin successfully studied the sciences, was a temperate youth.

Soon he became a priest at one of the churches in Constantinople, defending Orthodoxy in disputes with heretics and infidels. Later he went to his brother on Mount Olympus, lived in fasting, spending all his time in prayer and reading books, then accepted monasticism with the name Cyril.

Soon the brothers from Above were revealed Slavic alphabet. Some time after a debilitating illness, Cyril reposed in the Lord, and Methodius was consecrated a bishop.

About glorifying the language of Slovenian teachers and enlighteners, Saints Equal-to-the-Apostles Methodius and Cyril. To you, as a child to the father, by the light of your teachings and writings of enlightenment and in the faith of Christ, we now diligently resort and pray in contrition of our hearts. If only your covenant, like a disobedient child, not observing and pleasing God, like you clean, careless, and from like-mindedness and love, even more Slovenian, like brothers in faith and according to the flesh, bequeath good, otpadohom, both, like old in life you do not turn away your ungrateful and unworthy ones, but reward them with good ones for evil, so now your sinful and unworthy children do not turn away your prayers, but, as if you have great boldness to the Lord, diligently pray to Him, that he will guide and turn us to the path of salvation, strife and strife, in the midst of brothers of the same faith arising, will die, having fallen away, the packs will lead into unanimity, and will unite us all by unity of spirit and love in one, Saints, Cathedrals and Apostles of the Church. Vemy bo, vemy, how much can the prayer of the righteous to the mercy of the Lord, if it is brought about sinful people. Do not leave us, your dull and unworthy children, their sin for the sake of your flock, gathered by you, divided by enmity and temptations from infidels seduced, diminished, but her verbal sheep are scattered, from mental wolves admire, give us jealousy with your prayers for Orthodoxy, yes, let us warm it up, we will preserve the fatherly traditions well, we will faithfully observe the charters and customs of the church, we will run away from all false teachings and so, in a life pleasing to God on earth prospering, we will be worthy of the life of paradise in heaven, and there together with you the Lord of all, in the Trinity of the One God we will glorify till the end of time. Amen.

Appearance of entering the temple

The clothes of the parishioner should be modest and clean. The tone of the vestments should be chosen in calm colors, “flashy” clothes in the church are useless. Sometimes it is recommended to wear clothes of certain colors, for example: light-colored vestments and a red scarf (for women) at Easter, dark clothes during Great Lent.

For confession and communion, ladies need to wear a skirt, but its length should not be above the knee. On a jacket or blouse, necklines and transparent fabrics should be avoided. Shoes should be comfortable, because you have to stand for a long time at worship services.

Men are not allowed to come in shorts, T-shirts, tracksuits.

Behavior in the Temple

In the House of God it is not accepted:

to conduct conversations - this distracts parishioners from prayer;
pray and sing aloud, sing along to the choir - it prevents the "neighbors" from following the course of the service;
light candles on a candlestick while reading the Gospel, singing the Cherubim and the Eucharistic canon at the liturgy.

Buying candles, ordering prayers and magpies, purchasing literature should be on the eve of the Divine service, and not during it.

During the conciliar prayer, when the parishioners kneel, you need to take the same pose.

You can not keep your hands in your pockets, chew gum.

Arriving at the temple with children, one should monitor their behavior, not allow pampering. You can not bring animals and birds to the temple.

It is inappropriate to leave the church before the end of the divine service; only sick people and those who need early departure can do this.

Handling icons

When entering the hall of the church, one should venerate the icon lying in the center on the lectern. Usually this is an icon of a holiday or a saint whose memory is honored on this day.

First, you should make the sign of the cross on yourself twice, bow, kiss the icon and cross yourself again.

The parishioner should not kiss all the icons of the temple and the iconostasis, this should only be done by the bishop.

Voluntary donations

The parishioners bring the so-called sacrifice (or tithe) mainly in money, products for the priestly meal and any things that are necessary for the life of the church (wine, cloth, lamp oil, etc.).

Among believers, it is customary to make donations both to the temple and to alms to those in need who are on the porch.

The amount of the donation depends on the wealth of the parishioner, there are no strict rules, certain amounts and price lists.

Every child needs care. He needs to instill a desire to learn and learn the customs and traditions of society. All families, especially Orthodox ones, should work on this topic, and of course, do not forget to thank the Lord for help and generosity.

Symbol of faith

Prayers of a father or mother for children

Holy Father, Eternal God, every gift or every good comes from You. I diligently pray to you for the children whom your grace has bestowed on me. You gave them life, revived them with an immortal soul, revived them with holy baptism, so that they, in accordance with Your will, inherit the Kingdom of Heaven, save them, according to Your goodness, until the end of their lives. Sanctify them in Thy truth, that Thy name may be sanctified in them. Help me by Your grace to educate them for the glory of Your name and for the benefit of others, give me the necessary means for this: patience and strength. Lord, enlighten them with the light of Your Wisdom, may they love You with all their soul, with all their thoughts, instill in their hearts fear and aversion from all lawlessness, may they walk in Your commandments, adorn their souls with chastity, diligence, longsuffering, honesty, protect them with truth from slander vanity, abominations, sprinkle with the dew of Thy grace, may they succeed in virtues and holiness, and may they grow in Thy good pleasure, in love and piety. May the guardian angel always be with them and keep their youth from vain thoughts, from the seduction of the temptations of this world and from all kinds of crafty slander. If, however, when they sin against You, Lord, do not turn Your face away from them, but be merciful to them, arouse repentance in their hearts according to the multitude of Your bounties, cleanse their sins and do not deprive them of Your blessings, but give them everything that is necessary for their salvation, preserving them from every illness, danger, trouble and sorrow, overshadowing them with Your mercy all the days of this life. God, I pray to You, give me joy and joy about my children and make me stand with them at Your Last Judgment, with shameless boldness to say: “Here I am and the children whom You gave me, Lord. Amen". Let us glorify Your All-Holy Name, the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen.

God and Father, Creator and Preserver of all creatures! Give thanks to my poor children (names) By Your Holy Spirit, may He kindle in them the true fear of God, which is the beginning of wisdom and direct prudence, according to which whoever acts, that praise abides forever. Bless them with true knowledge of Thee, keep them from all idolatry and false doctrine, make them grow in true and saving faith and in all piety, and may they remain in them constantly to the end. Grant them a believing, obedient and humble heart and mind, may they grow in years and in grace before God and before people. Plant in their hearts love for Your Divine Word, so that they are reverent in prayer and worship, reverent towards the ministers of the Word and sincere in their deeds in every way, bashful in body movements, chaste in morals, true in words, faithful in deeds, diligent in studies. happy in the performance of their duties, reasonable and righteous towards all people. Keep them from all temptations evil world and let not evil society corrupt them. Do not let them fall into impurity and unchastity, may they not shorten their lives for themselves and may they not offend others. Protect them in every danger, so that they do not suffer sudden death. Make sure that we do not see dishonor and disgrace in them, but honor and joy, so that Your Kingdom is multiplied by them and the number of believers increases, and may they be in heaven around Your meal, like heavenly olive branches, and with all the chosen ones they will reward You honor, praise and glorification through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.

Lord Jesus Christ, be Thy mercy on my children (names), keep them under Your shelter, cover from every crafty lust, drive away from them every enemy and adversary, open their ears and eyes of the heart, grant tenderness and humility to their hearts. Lord, we are all Your creation, have pity on my children (names) and turn them to repentance. Save, Lord, and have mercy on my children (names) and enlighten their minds with the light of the mind of Thy Gospel and guide them on the path of Thy commandments and teach them, Savior, to do Thy will, for Thou art our God.

Those who have Christian names are commemorated of health, and only those baptized in the Orthodox Church are commemorated of repose.

Notes can be submitted to the liturgy:

At the proskomidia - the first part of the liturgy, when for each name indicated in the note, particles are taken out of special prosphora, which are subsequently lowered into the Blood of Christ with a prayer for the forgiveness of sins

Sweetest Jesus, God of my heart! You gave me children according to the flesh, they are Yours according to the soul; You have redeemed both my soul and theirs with Your priceless blood. For the sake of Your Divine blood, I beg You, my sweetest Savior: by Your grace, touch the hearts of my children (names) and my godchildren (names), protect them with Your Divine fear, keep them from bad inclinations and habits, direct them to the bright path of truth and goodness, adorn their life to all the good and saving, arrange their fate, as if you yourself are good, and save their souls, weigh them with fate.

Prayer for children, St. Ambrose of Optina

Lord, You are One in all weight, You can do everything and want to be saved by everyone and come to the understanding of Truth. Enlighten my child (name) with the knowledge of Thy truth and Thy will of the Holy Ones, strengthen him to walk according to Thy commandments and have mercy on me a sinner, with the prayers of Thy Most Pure Mother, the Mother of God and Ever-Virgin Mary and Thy saints (all holy families are listed), as if you were glorified with Your Beginningless Son and with Your Most Holy and Good and Life-Giving Spirit, now and forever, and forever and ever. Amen.

Prayer for children to the Most Holy Theotokos

O Most Holy Lady Virgin Mother of God, save and save under Your shelter my children (names), all the youths, maidens and babies, baptized and nameless and carried in the womb of their mother. Cover them with the robe of Your motherhood, keep them in the fear of God and in obedience to your parents, implore my Lord and Your Son, may He grant them useful things for their salvation. I entrust them to Your Motherly care, as You are the Divine Protection of Your servants.

Prayer for children to the Guardian Angel

Holy Guardian Angel of my child (name), cover him with your cover from the arrows of the demon, from the eyes of the seducer and keep his heart in angelic purity. Amen.

Indestructible Psalter

The indestructible Psalter is read not only about health, but also about repose. Since ancient times, the ordering of a commemoration on the Unsleeping Psalter has been considered a great almsgiving for the departed soul.

It is also good to order the Indestructible Psalter for yourself, support will be vividly felt. And one more important point, but far from the least important,

There is an eternal commemoration on the Indestructible Psalter. It seems expensive, but the result is more than a million times more than the money spent. If this is still not possible, then you can order for a shorter period. It's also good to read for yourself.

PRAYERS FOR THE BLESSING OF CHILDREN

A short prayer for the blessing of children

Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, bless, sanctify, preserve by the power of Your life-giving Cross. ( And put the sign of the cross on the child.)

Morning prayer for the blessing of children

Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, in prayers for the sake of Your Most Pure Mother, hear me, Your unworthy servant (name). Lord, in Your gracious power, my children (names), have mercy and save them, for Your name's sake. Lord, forgive them all the sins, voluntary and involuntary, committed by them before You. Lord, guide them on the true path of Your commandments and enlighten their minds with Your light, for the salvation of the soul and the healing of the body. Lord, bless them in every place of Your dominion. Lord, save them by the power of Your Honorable and Life-Giving Cross, under Your holy shelter, from a flying bullet, arrow, sword, fire, from a deadly wound, water drowning and vain death. Lord, protect them from all visible and invisible enemies, from all misfortune, evil, misfortune, betrayal and captivity. Lord, heal them from every disease and wound, from every filth, and ease their spiritual suffering. Lord, grant them the grace of Your Holy Spirit for many years of life, health and chastity in all piety and love, in peace and unanimity with those around them who are in command, near and far. Lord, multiply and strengthen their mental abilities and bodily strength, healthy and safe return them to their parental home. All-good Lord, grant me, unworthy and sinful servant of Yours (name), a parental blessing on my children (names) at this time of the morning (day, evening, night), for Your Kingdom is eternal, omnipotent and omnipotent. Amen.

PRAYERS IN TEACHING CHILDREN

Lord our God and our Creator, in His image we, the people, who adorned, Thy chosen ones, taught Thy law, so that those who listen to him marvel, revealed the secrets of wisdom to children, gave Solomon and all who seek it - open the hearts, minds and mouths of Thy servants (names) in order to comprehend the power of Your law and successfully learn the useful doctrine taught by it, for the glory of Your Most Holy Name, for the benefit and organization of Your Holy Church and the understanding of Your good and perfect will. Deliver them from all the wiles of the enemy, keep them in the faith of Christ and purity throughout their lives, may they be strong in mind and in the fulfillment of Your commandments, and so taught they will glorify Your Most Holy Name and be heirs of Your Kingdom, for You are God, strong in mercy and good strength, and all glory, honor and worship befits you, to the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, always, now and forever and forever and ever. Amen.

(To the Holy Apostle and Evangelist John the Theologian)

Oh, great apostle, loud-voiced evangelist, the most elegant theologian, occult expert of incomprehensible revelations, virgin and beloved confidante of Christ John, receive us sinners (names) who come running under your strong intercession and patronage with your usual mercy! Ask the All-Generous Lover of Christ and our God, even before your eyes you poured out Your most precious blood for us, His indecent servants, may He not remember our iniquities, but may He have mercy on us, and may He do with us by His mercy; may he grant us health of soul and body, all prosperity and abundance, teaching us to turn all of it into the glory of Him, the Creator, Savior and our God. At the end of our temporary life, may we, holy apostle, escape the merciless tortures that await us in the air trials, but may we reach, under your guidance and patronage, the Mountainous Jerusalem, whose glory in revelation you have seen, and now you enjoy these joys promised to the elect God's. Oh, great John, save all the cities and countries of Christianity, all this, this temple, dedicated to your holy name, serving and praying in it, from famine, destruction, cowardly and flood, fire, sword, invasion of foreigners and internecine warfare, deliver from all troubles and misfortunes, and with your prayers, turn away the righteous wrath of God from us, and ask us for His mercy; Oh, great and incomprehensible God, Alfo and Omego, source and object of our faith! Behold, we offer you Saint John, whom you have made worthy to know you, the inscrutable God, in an inexpressible revelation. Accept his intercession for us, grant us the fulfillment of our petitions, to Your glory: and above all, complete us with spiritual perfection, to the enjoyment of an endless life in Your heavenly abodes. Oh, Heavenly Father, who created the whole Lord, the Soul of Spirits, the Almighty King! Touch our hearts with Your finger, and they, melted like wax, will be shed before You, and the mortal spiritual creature will be created, in honor and glory of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen.

Saint John Chrysostom

Oh, great hierarch John Chrysostom! You have received many and various gifts from the Lord, and like a good and faithful servant, you have multiplied all the talents given to you for good: for this reason, you were truly a universal teacher, as every age and every rank is learned from you. Behold, the image appeared to you as a youth of obedience, to the young - chastity shone, the husband - diligence mentor, the old - teacher of malice, the monk - abstinence rule, those who pray - the leader from God, inspired, seeking wisdom - the enlightener of the mind, the well-spoken vortices - the words of the living source are inexhaustible, beneficent - a star of mercy, to those in charge - the rule of a wise image, truth to a zealot - boldness inspirer, truth for the sake of the persecuted - patience a mentor: all were thou, but save every one. Over all of these, you acquired love, even if there is a union of perfection, and by that, as if by the power of God, all the gifts in your soul were united into one, and there the love divided reconciling, in the interpretation of the words of the apostles, preached to all the faithful. But we are sinners, according to each one our own gift of property, unity of the spirit in the union of the world are not imams, but we are conceited, irritating each other, envious of each other: for this reason, our divided one is not divided into peace and salvation, but into enmity and condemnation to us. The same to you, the saint of God, we fall down, the servants of God (names), we are overwhelmed with contention, and in contrition of heart we ask: with your prayers, take away from our hearts all pride and envy that divides us, but in many places we will unrestrictedly remain one church body, but let us love one another with your prayerful words and with one mind confess the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, the Trinity of the same essence and inseparable, now and forever and forever and ever. Amen.

Reverend Sergius of Radonezh

O sacred head, reverend and God-bearing Father Sergius, with your prayer, and faith and love even to God, and purity of heart, still on earth in the monastery of the Most Holy Trinity, arranging your soul, and angelic communion and the Most Holy Theotokos visit, and the gift of miraculous grace received, after your departure from the earthly, especially to God, drawing closer and joining the heavenly forces, but not departing from us in the spirit of your love, and your honest relics, like a vessel of grace full and overflowing, leaving us! Great, having boldness to the all-merciful Master, pray to save His servants (names), the grace of His believers that is in you and flows to you with love: ask us from our great-gifted God for every gift, to everyone and to whom it is beneficial, faith is blameless observance, our cities are affirmed, peace of the world, deliverance from famine and destruction, preservation from the invasion of foreigners, consolation to the grieving, healing to those who are ill, resurrection to the fallen, return to those who err on the path of truth and salvation, striving fortification, good fortune and blessing in good deeds, upbringing as a baby, guidance to the young, ignorant admonition intercession for orphans and widows, departing from this temporal life to eternal good preparation and parting words, departed blessed repose, and all of us who help your prayers, on the day of the terrible judgment, vouchsafe a part of the shui to be delivered, while the right of the country, the fellows of being and the blessed voice of the Lord Christ, hear: come, bless my Father, inherit your kingdom from the foundation of the world.

Prayer to the Most Holy Theotokos in front of Her icon,

Oh, Blessed Lady Virgin Mother of God, save and save under Your shelter my children (names), all the youths, maidens and babies, baptized and nameless, and carried in the womb of their mother. Cover them with the robe of Your Motherhood, keep them in the fear of God and obedience to your parents, implore my Lord and Your Son, may He grant them useful things for their salvation. I entrust them to Your Motherly care, as You are the Divine protection of Your servants.

We thank Thee, the Creator, as if Thou hast vouchsafed us Thy grace, in a hedgehog heed to teaching. Bless our bosses, parents and teachers who lead us to the knowledge of the good, give us strength and strength to continue this teaching.

Prayer for Children Who Have Difficulty Teaching

Lord Jesus Christ, our God, truly dwelling in the hearts of the twelve apostles and by the power of the grace of the All-Holy Spirit, descending in the form of tongues of fire, opened their mouths so that they began to speak in other dialects - Himself, Lord Jesus Christ, our God, send it down Your Holy Spirit on this child (this girl) (name), and plant in his (her) heart the Holy Scripture, which Your most pure hand inscribed on the tablets of the legislator Moses, now and forever and forever and ever. Amen.

Reverend Alexander Svirsky

O sacred head, an earthly angel and a heavenly man, our reverend and God-bearing Father Alexandra, a fair servant of the Most Holy and consubstantial Trinity, many mercy to those who live in your holy monastery and to everyone who flows to you with faith and love! Ask us all that is good for this temporary life, and even more necessary for our eternal salvation: help us with your intercession, servant of God, may the holy Orthodox Church of Christ abide in peace, and the Fatherland is founded in prosperity, indestructible in all piety: be us all, miracle-working saint, in every sorrow and circumstance a quick helper: most of all, at the hour of our death, a merciful intercessor appears to us, let us not betray the evil world-keeper at the ordeals of the air power, but let us be honored with an unshakable ascent into the Kingdom of Heaven. Hey, Father, our prayer book is dear! Do not disgrace our hopes, but always about us, the servants of God (names), intercede before the throne of the Life-Giving Trinity, let us be honored together with you and with all the saints, if not worthy of Esma, in the villages of paradise glorify the greatness, grace and mercy of the one God in the Trinity , the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, forever and ever. Amen.

Sorokousty is a prayer service that is performed by the Church daily for forty days. Every day during this period, particles are removed from the prosphora.

The elder Schema-Archimandrite Zosima noted that the entire history of mankind is measured in “weeks and forties”. “For forty days Christ appeared to his disciples, staying on earth until the feast of the Ascension of the Lord. The holy feast is the fortieth day of the Ascension of the Lord. We celebrate Easter on the eve and we will celebrate the great annual holiday on the fortieth day after Easter - the Ascension of the Lord. Sorokoousty - forty days of fasting, forty days of Easter, everything goes by forty, weeks and forty. And the history of mankind also goes by weeks and forties. Sorokousts are ordered for health, especially for seriously ill patients.

ABOUT THE PROTECTION OF CHILDREN FROM THE TEMPTATIONS OF THE WORLD, AND ABOUT LOVE AND UNITY OF MIND BETWEEN PARENTS AND CHILDREN

Prayer to the holy martyrs Vera, Nadezhda, Love and their mother Sophia

You, the holy martyrs Vero, Nadezhda and Lyuba, we glorify, magnify and appease, together with the wise mother Sophia, we worship her as an image of God-wise care. Begged, Saint Vero, the Creator of the visible and invisible, that faith is strong, unblasphemy and indestructible will give us. Intercede, holy Hope, before the Lord Jesus for us sinners, so that hope in Your good will not wed us, and save us from all sorrow and need. Confession, holy Luba, to the Spirit of truth, the Comforter, our misfortunes and sorrows, may He send down heavenly sweetness to our souls from above. Help us in our troubles, holy martyrs, and together with your wise mother Sophia, pray to the King of kings and the Lord of lords, that he will keep (names) under His protection, that together with you and with all the saints we will exalt and glorify the most holy and great name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, the eternal Lord and good Co-Worker, now and forever and forever and ever.

ABOUT THE LIFE DEVELOPMENT OF CHILDREN

Saint Mitrofan of Voronezh

Saint Father Mitrofan, with the incorruption of your honest relics and many good deeds, miraculously done and done by you with faith, flowing to you, convinced that you have great grace from the Lord our God, we all humbly fall down and pray to you: pray for us (names) of Christ our God may it descend to all who honor your holy memory and diligently resort to you, His rich mercy: may it establish in His holy Orthodox Church the living spirit of right faith and piety, the spirit of knowledge and love, the spirit of peace and joy in the Holy Spirit, and all its members , are pure from worldly temptations and carnal lusts and the evil action of evil spirits, worship Him in spirit and in truth and diligently bake for the observance of His commandments for the salvation of their souls. May her shepherd give holy zeal of care for the salvation of people entrusted to them, enlighten unbelievers, instruct the ignorant, instruct and assure those who doubt, turn those who have fallen away from the Orthodox Church into her holy bosoms, keep believers in faith, move sinners to repentance, comfort and strengthen the penitent in the correction of life, the repentant and reformed will be affirmed in the sanctity of life: and so they will lead everyone by the path indicated by Him into the prepared eternal Kingdom of His saints. To her, the saint of God, arrange with your prayers all that is good for our souls and our bodies: yes, and we will glorify in our souls and bodies our Lord and our God, Jesus Christ, to Him with the Father and the Holy Spirit glory and power forever and ever. Amen.

Saint Nicholas the Wonderworker

O our good shepherd and God-wise mentor, St. Nicholas of Christ! Hear us sinners (names), praying to you and calling for your quick intercession for help: see us weak, caught everywhere, deprived of all good and darkened by the mind from cowardice. Strive, servant of God, do not leave us in the sinful captivity of being, let us not be our enemy in joy and die in our evil deeds. Pray for us unworthy of our Sovereign and Master, but you stand before Him with incorporeal faces: be merciful to us, create our God in this life and in the future, that he will not reward us according to our deeds and according to the impurity of our hearts, but according to His goodness will reward us . We hope for your intercession, we boast of your intercession, we call on your intercession for help, and we fall down to your most holy image, we ask for help: deliver us, saint of Christ, from the evils that are upon us, but for the sake of your holy prayers, we will not be attacked and we will not be polluted in the abyss of sin and in the mire of our passions. Moth, to St. Nicholas of Christ, Christ our God, give us a peaceful life and the remission of sins, but salvation and great mercy to our souls, now and ever and forever and ever.

ABOUT INTERCEPTION OF ORPHANS

Saint Demetrius of Rostov

O wonderful and glorious miracle worker Demetrius, heal human ailments! You vigilantly pray to the Lord our God for all sinners: I pray thee, thy servant (name): be me an intercessor before the Lord and an assistant to overcome the passions of my insatiable flesh, and to overcome the arrows of my adversary the devil, my weak heart is wounded by the image, and, like a smooth and fierce beast, it hungers to destroy my soul: you are the saint of Christ, my fence, you are my intercession and weapon: you, the great miracle worker, in the days of your exploits in this world, jealous of Orthodox Church God's, like a true and good shepherd, you unblatantly denounced the sins and ignorance of people, and from the path of truth in heresy and schisms, deviating to the path of truth, you instructed: make haste and correct my short-term path of my life, so that I will unswervingly follow the path of God's commandments and work without laziness Lord Jesus Christ, as my only Master, Redeemer and my righteous Judge: I pray to them, servant of God, when my soul comes out of this mortal body, deliver me from dark ordeals: I do not imam for good deeds to justify to me, do not let Satan be proud of the victory over my weak soul: deliver me from hell, where weeping and gnashing of teeth, and with your holy prayers make me a partaker of the Kingdom of Heaven in the Trinity of the glorious God, the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, forever and ever. Amen.

Saint Nicholas the Wonderworker

O our good shepherd and God-wise mentor, St. Nicholas of Christ! Hear us sinners (names), praying to you and calling for your quick intercession for help: see us weak, caught everywhere, deprived of all good and darkened by the mind from cowardice. Strive, servant of God, do not leave us in the sinful captivity of being, let us not be our enemy in joy and not die in our evil deeds. Pray for us unworthy of our Sovereign and Master, but you stand before Him with incorporeal faces: be merciful to us, create our God in this life and in the future, that he will not reward us according to our deeds and according to the impurity of our hearts, but according to His goodness will reward us . We hope for your intercession, we boast of your intercession, we call on your intercession for help, and we fall down to your most holy image, we ask for help: deliver us, saint of Christ, from the evils that are upon us, but for the sake of your holy prayers, we will not be attacked and we will not be polluted in the abyss of sin and in the mire of our passions. Moth, to St. Nicholas of Christ, Christ our God, give us a peaceful life and the remission of sins, but salvation and great mercy to our souls, now and ever and forever and ever.

Prayers before the icon of the Mother of God

"Protection of the Most Holy Theotokos"

O Blessed Virgin, Mother of the Lord of the Higher Forces, Heaven and earth Queen, city and country, our all-powerful Intercessor! Receive this laudatory and thankful singing from us, unworthy Thy servants, and offer up our prayers to the Throne of God Thy Son, may he be merciful to our unrighteousness and give His grace to those who honor Thy all-honorable name and with faith and love bow down to Thy miraculous image. Nesma is worthy of His pardon to be, otherwise You will propitiate Him for us, Mistress, as all of You is possible from Him. For this sake, we resort to You, as if to our undoubted and soon Intercessor: hear us praying to You, fall us with Your all-powerful protection and ask God Your Son for our shepherd jealousy and vigilance for souls, wisdom and strength as a city governor, justice and impartiality to judges, a mentor reason and humility of wisdom, love and harmony as a spouse, obedience to those who are offended, patience to those who offend, the fear of God that offends, complacency to those who grieve, abstinence to rejoice: all of us are the spirit of reason and piety, the spirit of mercy and meekness, the spirit of purity and truth. Hey, Most Holy Lady, have mercy on your weak people; Gather the scattered, guide those who have gone astray on the right path, support old age, chaste youth, raise babies and look upon us all with the contempt of Your merciful intercession; raise us up from the depths of sin and illumine the eyes of our hearts with the sight of salvation; be merciful to us here and there, in the country of earthly alienation and at the Last Judgment of Your Son; reposed in faith and repentance from this life, fathers and our brethren in eternal life create life with the Angels and with all the saints. Thou art, Mistress, the Glory of heaven and the Hope of the earth, You, according to Bose, are our Hope and Intercessor of all those who flow to You in faith. We pray to You, and to You, as the Almighty Helper, we betray ourselves and each other and our whole life, now and forever, and forever and ever. Amen.

Church trebs in Orthodox churches in Jerusalem

Sorokoust about repose

Indestructible Psalter

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Prayer for health

Sorokoust about health

Temples and monasteries in which divine services are performed

Does your robber have deuces in his diary again? The child does not obey, and it is simply impossible to plant him for homework? Many parents have a situation where the child does not want to study, skips school and is not attentive in the classroom.

Often adults make many mistakes in order to force their daughter or son to study. This happens because there is no knowledge of how to instill a love of learning in children. Some begin to educate in the same way as they were raised in childhood. It turns out that the mistakes of education are passed from generation to generation. First, our parents suffer themselves and force us to study, then we apply the same torture to our children.

When a child does not study well, unhappy pictures are drawn in the head of what his future may be like. Instead of a prestigious university and degree, third-rate technical school. Instead of a brilliant career and a good salary, a job that is embarrassing to tell friends about. And instead of a salary, pennies, on which it is not clear how to live. Nobody wants that kind of future for their children.

To understand why our children do not feel like learning, we need to find the reason for this. There are a lot of them. Let's consider the main ones.

1) No desire and incentive to study

Many adults are used to forcing a child to do something against his will, to impose his opinion. If the student resists doing what he does not want, this means that his personality is not broken. And that's okay.

There is only one way to involve a child in learning - to interest him. Of course, teachers should think about this first of all. An uninterestingly designed program, boring teachers who lead a lesson without taking into account the age of the children - all this contributes to the fact that the child will avoid learning and be lazy in completing tasks.

2) Stress at school

People are arranged as follows: first, simple needs for food, sleep, security are satisfied. But the need for new knowledge and development is already in the background. School for children sometimes becomes a real source of stress. Where kids experience different things every day negative emotions such as: fear, tension, shame, humiliation.

In fact, 70% of the reasons why children do not want to study and go to school are just because of stress. (Bad relationships with peers, teachers, insults from older comrades)

Parents may think: after all, there were only 4 lessons, the child says that he is tired, so he is lazy. Actually stressful situations take a lot of energy from him. Yes, and causes a negative to this environment. Therefore, he begins to think poorly, his memory works worse, he looks inhibited. Before attacking a child and forcing him by force, it is better to ask how he is doing at school. Was it difficult for him? How is his relationship with other children and teachers?

Case from practice:
We had an 8 year old boy. According to the boy's mother, in the last few months he began to skip classes, often did not do his homework. And before that, although he was not an excellent student, he studied diligently and there were no special problems with him.

It turned out that a new student was transferred to their class, who in every possible way mocked the child. He ridiculed him in front of his comrades and even used physical strength extorted money. The child, due to his inexperience, did not know what to do with it. He did not complain to his parents or teachers, because he did not want to be known as a sneak. And I couldn't solve the problem myself. Here is a clear example of how stressful conditions make it difficult to gnaw at the granite of science.

3) Pressure resistance

The psyche works in such a way that when we are under pressure, we resist with all our might. The more the mother and father force the student to do homework by force, the more he begins to avoid it. This once again confirms the fact that this situation cannot be corrected by force.

4) Low self-esteem, disbelief in yourself

Excessive criticism of parents towards the child leads to his low self-esteem. If no matter what the student does, you still can’t please, then this is just such a case. Motivation completely disappears. What difference does it make whether they put 2 or 5, anyway no one will praise, will not appreciate what they deserve, will not say a kind word.

5) Too much control and help

There are parents who literally teach themselves instead of their child. They collect a briefcase for him, do homework with him, command what, how and when to do it. In this case, the student takes a passive position. There is no need for him to think with his own head and he is not capable of answering for himself. Motivation also disappears, as he acts as a puppet.

It should be noted that this is quite common in modern families and is a big problem. Parents themselves spoil their child, trying to help him. Total control kills independence and responsibility. And this pattern of behavior passes into adulthood.

Case from practice:

Irina turned to us for help. She had problems with the academic performance of her 9-year-old daughter. If the mother was late at work or went on a business trip, the girl did not do her homework. In the lessons she also behaved passively and if the teacher did not look after her, then she was distracted and did other things.

It turned out that Irina interfered heavily in the learning process from the first grade. She controlled her daughter excessively, literally did not let her take a step on her own. Here is the disastrous result. The daughter did not at all strive to study, she believed that only her mother needed it, and not her. And she only did it under duress.

There is only one treatment here: stop patronizing the child and explain why you need to study at all. At first, of course, he will relax and do nothing. But over time, he will understand that he still needs to learn somehow and will slowly begin to organize himself. Of course, it won't work all at once. But after a while it will get better and better.

6) You need to give rest

When a student comes home from school, he needs 1.5-2 hours to rest. At this time, he can do his favorite things. There is also a category of mothers and fathers, which begins to press on the child as soon as he enters the house.

Questions about grades are pouring in, requests to show the diary and instructions to sit down for homework. If you do not give the baby a rest, his concentration will be noticeably reduced. And in a tired state, he will begin to dislike school and everything connected with it even more.

7) Quarrels in the family

An unfavorable atmosphere at home is a serious obstacle to good grades. When there are frequent quarrels and scandals in the family, the child begins to worry, become nervous and withdrawn. Sometimes he even begins to blame himself for everything. As a result, all his thoughts are occupied with the current situation, and not with the desire to study.

8) Complexes

There are children with a non-standard appearance or with not very well developed speech. They often receive a lot of ridicule. Therefore, they experience a lot of suffering and try to be invisible, avoiding answers at the blackboard.

9) Bad company

Even in the first grade, some students manage to connect with dysfunctional friends. If friends do not want to learn, then your child will support them in this.

10) Dependencies

Children, as well as adults with early age may have their own dependencies. In elementary school, these are games, entertainment with friends. At 9-12 years old - a passion for computer games. At a transitional age bad habits and street company.

11) Hyperactivity

There are children with excess energy. They are characterized by poor perseverance and concentration. In this regard, it is difficult for them to sit in class and listen without being distracted. And hence - bad behavior and even frustrated lessons. Such children need to attend additional sports sections. Detailed tips for you can read in this article.

If you correctly understand the cause of poor teaching at school, then we can assume that 50% of the problem has already been solved. In the future, you need to develop an action plan, thanks to which it will be possible to encourage the student to study. Screams, scandals, swearing - it never worked. Understanding your child and helping him with the difficulties that have arisen is what will create the right motivation.

13 Practical Tips on How to Motivate Your Student to Get A's

The first thing every parent should know is that the child should be praised for any success.
Then he will naturally develop a desire to learn. Even if he does something not yet good enough, he still needs to be praised. After all, he almost coped with the new task and put a lot of effort into this. This is a very important condition, without which it is impossible to force a child to learn.
In no case do not scold for mistakes, because they learn from mistakes.
If a child is scolded for something that he does not succeed in, then he will forever lose the desire to do this. Making mistakes is a natural process, even for adults. Children, on the other hand, do not have such life experience and only learn new tasks for themselves, so you need to be patient, and if something does not work out for your child, it would be better to help him figure it out.
Do not give gifts for studying
Some adults, for the purpose of motivation, promise various gifts to their children or monetary rewards for good studies. You don't have to do that. Of course, at first the baby will find an incentive and begin to try in school, but over time he will begin to demand more and more. And small gifts will no longer satisfy him. In addition, study is his daily obligatory actions and the child must understand this. Therefore, the issue of motivation will not be resolved in a similar way in the long term.
You need to show your son or daughter the full degree of responsibility that lies in this lesson - study
To do this, explain why you need to study at all. Often children who do not have much interest in learning do not understand why this is necessary. They have a lot of other interesting things to do, and classes at school interfere with this.
Sometimes parents demand too much from their children.
Even now, the training program is several times more difficult than before. Moreover, if the child, in addition to this, goes to developing circles, then overwork can naturally occur. Don't expect your child to be perfect. It is quite natural that some subjects are more difficult for him, and it takes more time to understand them.
If any of the subjects is given to your son or daughter is especially difficult, then a good solution would be to hire a tutor
It is better to inculcate the habit of studying from the 1st grade
If a child in the first grade learns to achieve his goals, complete his tasks and for which he will receive praise and respect from adults, then he will not go astray.
Help see positive change
When your child succeeds in something very difficult, support him every time. More often say phrases like: “Well, now you do it much better! And if you continue in the same spirit, you will do very well!” But never use: “Try a little more and then it will be good.” Thus, you do not recognize the child's small victories. It is very important to maintain it and notice the slightest changes.
Set an example
Do not try to teach your child to do homework while you watch TV and relax in other ways. Children love to copy their parents. If you want your child to develop, for example, to read books, instead of messing around, do it yourself.
Maintain
If the student has a difficult test, support him. Tell him that you believe in him, that he will succeed. Especially if he tries hard, then success is inevitable. It is necessary to support even when he completely failed something. Many mothers and fathers prefer to reprimand in such a case. It is better to reassure the child and say that next time he will definitely cope. You just need to put in a little more effort.
Share experiences
Explain to your child that you can't always do what you want. Yes, I understand that you don’t like math so much, but it needs to be studied. You will be able to bear it easier if you share it with your loved ones.
Point out the good qualities of the child
Even if it is so far from doing well in school, but positive traits baby, as the ability to help others, charm, the ability to negotiate. This will help in creating adequate self-esteem and find support within yourself. And normal self-esteem, in turn, will create self-confidence.
Consider the wishes and aspirations of the child himself
If your kid is interested in music or drawing, you do not need to force him to attend a class with a mathematical bias. No need to break the kid to say you know best. All children are different and each has their own talents and abilities. Even if you force a student to study a subject he does not like, he will not achieve great success in it. Because success is only where there is love for the cause and interest in the process.

Should you force your child to study?

As you probably already understood from this article, forcing a child to learn by force is a useless exercise. So you will only make it worse. It is better to create the right motivation. To create motivation, you need to understand why he needs it. What will he gain from his studies? For example, in the future he will be able to get the profession he dreams of. And without education, he will not have any profession at all and will not be able to earn his living.

When a student has a goal and an idea why he should study, then there is a desire and ambition.

And of course, you need to deal with the problems that prevent your child from becoming a successful student. There is no other way to do this, but to talk to him and find out.

I hope these practical advice help you improve your children's academic performance. If you still have questions, you can always contact us for help at online psychologist consultation. An experienced child psychologist will help as soon as possible to find out all the reasons why the child experiences difficulties and unwillingness to learn. Together with you, they will develop a work plan that will help your child feel the taste for learning.

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